DECEMBER 27, 1975

Sunday was a special day as lady and I celebrated our 34th year together. No, we did not have a party or do something exotic. We did what we liked ... be together and and just let the moment pass into our memories. Who we were 34 years ago is much different than who we are right now but what hasn't changed is our love. In 1975, she was my new wife ... now, she is my best friend. It is had to imagine it any other way. The memories could fill the biggest storage vault and best of all it is in our minds to be replayed with the simplest of effort. Lunch was simple ... MacD's, as the grand kids played on the floor and brought many memories back as we watched. Maybe the gray hair, wrinkles and extra inches exist for us but what I see through these hazy eyes is her love and how much I wish to be right there. Things go slower but that allows for time to savor every bit of the emotion and excitement. Life is always too fast and the special times are quickly pushed aside for the present and what it will do for you. I am thankful that we took the time then to create the memories that flood our thoughts. I couldn't imagine the emptiness if we stood here now having never shared or done the things that two people in love do as they live and grow together. Could we have done better? Yes, but from where I see this ... we have done a lot right to make these memories. Memories you ask? These are some of the special ones.

1. A beautiful woman reciting her vows in front of God, friends and me.
2. Standing there looking at our car on a snow pedestal, wheels inches from the ground, wishing we could start our Honeymoon.
3. The cat running away with our Pork Chop meant for our first meal together.
4. Standing in the living room of our first house, 4 bedrooms, wondering where we would ever find furniture. Our total possessions were outside in the Pinto.
5. Our first move to California, her first time (far) away from home.
6. Picking up bottles to cash in to wash clothes.
7. Driving in the Sierra's just to see snow (lot's of it).
8. Graduation from the University and the realization I would be able to spend time with my wife on weekends.
9. Watching her pin me upon Commissioning. Those little dogs never cooperate.
10. Those Thursday Nights when I was on Alert and eating dinner with her always praying the Klaxon wouldn't sound sending me scurrying to the plane. (It did happen, several times)
11. Coming back from a long B-52 mission to find the candle lit in the window.
12. Standing in a room looking at a 3 month old boy and wondering what our first child would be like. (Tuned out it was him).
13. Standing in a small Hospital Chapel, receiving another small bundle of love and joy.
14. The 3 month camp-out in California waiting for a house.
15. Ronda being named Volunteer of the Year. My wife the best ... well, I already knew that.
16. That long trip back to Virginia that has turned out to be our last move.
17. The rest of the story is known by all our friends and has been playing for 19 years.

How can I say anything but "WOW!" I love my wife and find it inconceivable that life could get any better. Well, except for Christ's Return. But then again, we will both be there. So the memories will never end.

I LOVE YOU ... RONDA

The Days After

Well, Christmas 2009 has come and gone. We are headed straight and fast towards 2010. I missed the Christmas Eve Service and being able to share it with my family and friends. Christmas Day was a great day spent with family and friends. The only downer was I was sick. From December 24-27, I spend almost all my time in bed or reclining when my breathing got bad. I am now back up and running with only minor left over effects. Christmas morning breakfast was as usual ... great. Breakfast Casserole and Fresh Fruit Salad, how can you go wrong? Me, Lady and AJ spent some fun time waiting for the older ones to wake up. Santa's gifts for the kids was a two part affair. AJ had our whole focus as he opened a mountain of gifts twice his height. Who says he isn't spoiled? The cutest part was his insistence to place each piece of torn wrapping paper in the trash bag before removing the next. That won't last long. We adults did not share gifts as we just spent the time together and watched the kids. The family meals and time sitting around snacking were special too me. We get lost in the gift part and lose the sharing time part. That made this Christmas very special and one to be remembered for a long time. Saturday, the second wave came as Lew and Lil Princess showed up to open their gifts. One word described that time ... Tornado. It was a blast as they opened gifts in a flurry of paper and played with each others and of course ... squabbled over the toys. Good estimate there was 3 kids with 15 new gifts between them and they still wanted to fight over just one. The Weekend ended with Church and the delayed Christmas Cantata. I would have to say from my stand point that this years Christmas was a very good one.

Bowling on Sunday was not a good time as #1 was absent and I was out of bed for the first time in 4 days. So my energy drained very quickly. Lady and I went to her workplace after bowling for their Holiday get together. It was nice, had good food and I saw people for the first time in a year.

#1 made two round trips to Myrtle Beach with his friend this past week. Peanut was invaluable in helping Lady get all the food, gifts and baking stuff ready. Star came over and called several times and just blended in to all the fun. It was great seeing her so happy. AJ, Lew, and Lil Princess made the whole place brighten up with their antics and unbridled excitement.

Wild Mom is excited as the Cruise is only 9 days away. Sailing anyone?

Other Family News: My brother had a heart attack on the 23rd and he is now home, feeling better and readjusting to life. A real good friend of ours and Wild Mom passed away after a long sickness, we will miss you Betty. My Aunt Madeline, age 97 passed away in her sleep Christmas Night. I have many memories of her and she will be missed.

Response to Previous Comments by "I Care"

RESPONSE TO COMMENT MADE TO THE BLOG "START OF CHRISTMAS WEEK.

Well, it seems someone doesn't like my blogs. I have allowed this comment so that each person may form their own opinions. I am disappointed that "I Care" feels like it is acceptable to make false accusations and then hide their identity. Seems like the cowardly way to address a problem if there is one. But this is life.

I take exception to the comment " but it seems like all you can do is bash her and tell her she is no good piece of trash and she is throwing her life away all because you don't approve of her ways and that she did not want to fall for you and all your stupid rules."

1. I have never bashed her in this forum. I have disagreed, voiced my sadness on her decisions but I have never bashed or trashed her on this site. For that matter, I have never bashed or trashed her with my words.

2. I have NEVER called her "Trash". For you to say that or infer that is saying what you want to have said.

3. Yes, I do not approve of some of the things she has down. Especially, living with a married man and playing house is wrong. And you don't have to be a Christian to know that.

4. We have supported her as much as she has allowed. We were there to help her get through High School, offered numerous times to help her job search, I have always tried to coach her to get back in school and get a degree. But our urgings met with passive words of acceptance and never any follow through.

5. She has shown us over the last several months that she wants no contact with us and to have no interaction of any kind. We have stepped back so that she can be independent and live her life her way. Go for it but we have never bashed or trashed her for doing it.

6. As for the statement - "I don't think it is all fair what you have done to her or the way you have treated her." That is your opinion. I would get a second opinion if I were you, your source is blurry. We have always treated her fairly and with love. At least, as much as she would allow.

7. As for "Dead Beats", this is of no concern of you. What goes on inside my home only concerns those that live there.

8. I have finished growing up and I am satisfied with the final product. All that is left for me is the polishing and effects of experience.

9. My Christianity is of no concern. I know who my Savior is and I am satisfied that I am doing his will. Am I perfect? No, but you or anyone else's opinion is of little or no concern.

I consider this issue closed. Further comments are being moderated as I do not want a flame war started between people taking sides.

She has set her life's course and we accept that.

As for "I Care", please remember that this is my blog site and what I say here is my thoughts and what I talk about is what I want too. If the subject or thoughts are not to your liking, then feel free not to read my words. You were not forced here or required to be here so as such you can leave just as freely.

Chuckles Abound

Some people never learn. As I sit here watching the pedestrians across the street, every now and then one comes along who makes you laugh even through their misery. To set the scene, 1 snow bank approximately 5 feet high, 1 dirty puddle of water about 4 inches deep, rush hour traffic with reduced lanes and 1 lady in a big rush. After dodging the rush hour traffic by running across 5 lanes of stopped traffic, she attempted to scale the snow and ice wall that stood between her and the nice clean sidewalk. Needless to say, she made it only halfway up before she lost momentum. In desperation she lunged for the top and only managed to slide and spin her way to the bottom back into the awaiting water puddle. Now as she sits there in the water, she is thoroughly pissed and extremely embarrassed. She once again she launches up the snow and ice wall but now the water only manages to make it icier and more slippery. Once again, she made it to the puddle without even making it halfway up and the dirty water cools her off. By now her dress is torn down the front, her right shoe hopelessly buried in the snow bank, her rear exposed from the slide and everything, hair, coat, clothes and papers, are dripping wet with the dirty water and who knows what else. She now gives up and walks the quarter block to the crossing she originally had no time for. Here she can use the path cut through the snow bank to reach the clean sidewalk.

Moral: Sometimes the shortest path isn't the quickest.

Start of Christmas Week

Four days until Christmas and it will be a white one. We got about 20" this weekend and my back and arms can attest to it. I spent a good part of Sunday clearing the driveway and sidewalk. Hopefully the sun will do some damage today and dry off the driveway. My luck will be that when I go home, I find the plows have pushed clumps of ice and slush into my cleared driveway entrance. For the most part, this weekend was a quiet, a stay in the house type of weekend. Lady did get some cleaning done and re-arranging done. Now comes the challenge of finding stuff once again. Lots of gifts for the kids were wrapped and put away until Thursday. If not AJ would have them all opened in a blink of an eye. Lew and Lil Princess stayed at their home this weekend. So our weekend was quiet as possible with just AJ there to entertain us. Perhaps Lew will be over Wednesday night to make the cookies for Santa, he was going to do the baking Saturday but the weather interfered. Church and Bowling were called off Sunday so we had a rare day to relax and do some other things. We managed to go over to Friends and bask in the warmth of the outdoor hot tub. We even managed to get a picture with the snow in the background. Picture us in the hot tub in 20" of snow and the outside temperature is 25 degrees. Sounds crazy but it was really nice. Two weeks from Wednesday, we head south to the warmer weather. Sad part is that we won't even miss the cold weather we leave here. Wild Mom is doing fine and getting anxious for the days to pass. She really wishes she had come up here for the Holidays, especially now that they will be white. Muffin is sick and giving her something to worry over.

I, and I alone made a decision this past week about some things in our life. Probably not the right one, but dang it, I am going to stick by it, no matter the outcome. Sometimes I get tired of feeling the boot tracks up and down my back. And there seems to be no end in sight, so I put a end to it.

Wednesday Night is Christmas Eve service at the Church. Would be nice to see all the family there ... but reality comes into focus and I will spend it with my wife as we always do. Can't get much better than that.

7 and Counting

One week to go till Christmas. Better yet, they are predicting 7-11 inches of snow this weekend and the temperatures will stay in the low 30's through Christmas. Result: A White Christmas ... the first in a long time. Many things are going on around the house and Church in preparation for Christmas ... so it is a bee-hive of activity. Yesterday, we received all our Cruise papers leaving only the packing and travel down there. As it grows closer the anticipation grows. Temps in the Mid-80's and sun, no work, and a lot of goofing off. Last night we were dreaming about a cruise to Australia in the near future. That would be awesome and such a dream come true. Would really be nice if Lady and I could retire by then and make it even longer and more special. This Sunday the kids have their pizza party to celebrate their season and get their trophies. I must not forget the camera as Lew will bowl and he will provide a lot of laughs and action shots. It dawned on me today that in 3 months is the National Bowling Tournament in Reno. This will be my 21st consecutive one. Seems like my first one in Toledo Ohio was only just a few months ago. Thinking back, we had just arrived in the Northern Virginia area and bought our house. So much has happened since that day ... good, bad, but for the greatest part an adventure. Yes, I wish a few things had been different, events and decisions, but they are memories to cherish for a life time.

Wild Mom is ready to go and I have all her cruise papers to bring to her next month. Sure wish she was here since she always wants a white Christmas. Lady is busy and enjoying the times. We seem to play a lot of Christmas music especially when the snow is falling. #1 and #2 have no change except #1's football team lost last night so his Friday morning is a rough one. Peanut run out of presents to wrap and is bored. School is great and she gets closer to graduating. Gee, just dawned on me she will be the first to finish college ... I mus plan something special. I can't wait to see the kids eyes when they see all the gifts and then open them. I have to remember not to let any smoke get in my eyes and give me blurry vision as they do. Would hate to miss it. Star is having fun and partying up a storm while she visits. She will be ready to go back to Atlanta just to rest.

I have thought of something to do as a special treat for my family and I must get to work at it now. Maybe I can have it ready by New Years. What I wish for the New Years will remain unspoken as I see if I can mentally will it to happen.

Jingle Jingle Jingle

I am glad the weekend is over so I can let my body recover. I spent most of the afternoon and evening putting bunk beds together. The worse part was the stupid tool they give you t use. My thumb and hand were sore after screwing this monster screws into the wood. Then on Sunday, there was no rest as Bowling took precedence. The kids did it going from wire to wire in First Place. The only downside was they were tied on the last week forcing a one game roll-off. But true to form they stepped up and won the game when it counted the most. Next week I get to take Lew to bowl as we party and receive the trophies. That should provide a clear picture of next January when he will bowl the whole season. The adult team continues to battle and hang on to 3rd place.

Star showed up on Friday for a visit. It was a good surprise though Lady's surprise was negated by a little birdie telling her in advance. Oh well. It is good to see her and we look forward to more time spent together this Holiday Season. Welcome Home ... Star. Wild Mom is busy getting ready and packing for her Caribbean trek less than 4 weeks away. The rest of her time is spent going to doctors appointments and pet appointments. Then she adds a few Craft classes in and all her time is gone.

Lady has been in a baking, Christmas tree decorating, Present buying and wrapping mode for a while now. Of course the waist line shows the "baking" effect." The snicker-doodles and rice krispies bars were over the top. #1 is still working and trying to get back to his old bowling form. His youth team finished 4th. Perhaps his proximity to the "30" plateau has something to do with slowing him down. #2 continues to vegetate in the job market ... maybe we should turn him into a vegetarian for a while till he is successful in locating some work. Peanut is getting ever closer to finishing her classes as today she turned in her business plan. Hmmm, wonder what kind of boss she will be ... hey, she could hire #2!!! In her free time Peanut is in the baking mode or is it her "Susy Homemaker mode?" Hmmm.

The kids were like jumping beans Saturday night with the new bunk beds. It seems they though the beds were more jungle gym than bed.It was fun watching them use my tools to help with the screws and boards. The intensity and grunts as they exerted themselves was priceless ... even NANA managed to get pictures. Only AJ is fighting the sniffles right now and he will see the doctor today and get some meds. Princess works like the seven dwarfs. Not much more to report.

Ponderings #3

1. Why is it we do the same thing someone else does but we rationalize our actions as acceptable and condemn their actions as inappropriate? Are we that much better? Or do the rules we are supposed to play by only apply to "everyone" else? Perhaps that is why so many people have trouble with Christianity ... there is a double standard that has been set, not by God, but by everyone that claims the label of Christian. I guess after having this as a topic and then observing it first hand, my mind began to churned with the question, "why?" There is no doubt this is wrong and not the accepted norm as described by Jesus Christ. We are to look past the problems or issues and show compassion just as Paul showed the Thessalonians. But we don't ... we cry foul ... all the time forgetting we are standing out of bounds. Just because we bent a knee and prayed a prayer does not give us any right to assume an air of authority and make decisions until Christ returns. We need to lose the "ME" and replace it with "WE". Compassion should be our mantra not condemnation for violations according to our standard of beliefs. Why did Jesus place such an emphasis on Love? Because that is the essence of being like him. Loving each other even when we are mad, upset, disappointed, punished or scorned by another person. Love isn't something just for a fair or good day, that is the easy way, but it most productive when we show it on the darkest and most difficult of days. Do we need to start over and wrinkle or dress or pants as we kneel and ask forgiveness and strength to start all over? Yes.

2. Another thought process I am chewing on concerns -- Trivial words. How many times a day do we ask forgiveness for messing up or doing something we shouldn't? For most of us, it is many times. Now consider this, how many years has this been going on? Have we trivialized the words "Jesus forgive me ... I won't do it again?" Once again the answer is yes. Kind of like a child saying "I am sorry." They learn the phrase gets them out of trouble but as soon as the memory fades they are right back at it. As adults we are quick to say "I love you." But is it real when you say it or a phrase that ends all conversations or events? Have you ever hurt someone and ended your apology with I love you only to hurt them again in a short time? We have because like sorry it is a automatic response that we know gets results or helps us bypass pain. So then since we trivialize the phrase Love no wonder we trivialize Jesus. He is love and what he did for us was out of love. Let us find compassion and change in our life. Forget the little hurts and pains of others and show unrestrained compassion. Then we might reach a point where asking Jesus for forgiveness will really be a life changing event. If I remember right, accepting his love and salvation made us a new person.

December Begins, I am just Late!

Well, I have forgot to write sooner and the week is almost half gone. Where did all the fun times go? Saturday was our first snowfall and it was really nice ... now we need 24 more inches from the next one coming tonight! Today has been a slow one for me as my stomach has decided to take up gymnastics and the first class is somersaults. Hopefully this will pass and I can get back to full speed. Bowling went well last weekend. Next week (12-13-09) is the last week for the kids. They are in first place with a 7 point lead. The adult team has slipped a bit from second to third even though we did have a good week. Work remains the same with a lot of people out burning off their vacation time prior to the end of the year. Less than four (4) weeks to the warm Western Caribbean weather!

Wild Mom is about ready for the Holiday's and wishing for more visitors. Her craft room is about done. She has managed not to sent the new alarm system off ... so far. Lady is busy. While it was snowing Saturday morning, the Christmas music was turned on and the first attempt at putting the Tree up was tried. Needless to say the lights didn't play along and we will have to try again. She has secured most of the grand kids gifts and stashed them away from prying eyes ... especially #2's. #1 is getting about with only minor twinges with his back. He even bowled but for the most part could only claim the " I Participated Award." #2 has no change to anything in his life. Except maybe, he has found a few of those cheating games that #1 says exists. Peanut is getting her business going and even managed to schedule a few practice sessions as she learns the little tricks of the trade. What could be better than 3 little kids at Christmas time? The are amazing to watch as the talk and do those things that make you laugh and cry. Lady wrapped a gift for Lil Princess and AJ unwrapped it immediately after it was place by the Tree. He was quick. Lil Princess tried several time to get me to do something by blinking her eyes and putting on a pouty face. It didn't work! At least not initially. Star is back in Georgia and settling down to her new place and the Holiday Season. She hopes to drop by during Christmas if all goes well.Trucker Justin (TJ) and Blue are burning up the road as they crisscross the United States delivering stuff for Prime. TJ is almost to the point of completing his training and getting his own big rig. Now does that scare you? My prayers are with Blue as he deals with some family issues. But then again, don't we all have some?

Ponderings #2

Stress is the trash of modern life - we all generate it but if you don't dispose of it properly, it will pile up and overtake your life.

There is no such thing as a bad day, just bad moments that we choose to take with us all day long.

It takes 8,460 bolts to assemble an automobile, and one nut to scatter it all over the road. If you must drink and drive, drink Pepsi.

“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.”

"Will someone else's life be brighter tomorrow because of what you have done today?"

The process of discovering who I really am, begins with knowing who I really don't want to be.

Just when you think you're at the end of your rope and you just can't hold on any longer, you find out that there's actually a net about an inch underneath you and was there all along ... if you just let go.

Life can only be understood looking backward, but must be lived looking forward.

"Failure doesn't have to be a set back, but a stepping-stone to a brighter future."

There is no such thing as a bad day, just bad moments that we choose to take with us all day long.

“Happiness is not the absence of problems but the ability to deal with them.”

Pondering #1

Light travels faster than sound. That's why some people appear bright until you hear them speak.

Life isn't like a box of chocolates. It's more like a jar of jalapenos. What you do today, might burn your butt tomorrow.

When everything is coming your way, you're in the wrong lane.

Ho - Ho - Ho

Well, another week comes to an end and they are even predicting snow on Saturday. How much better can that get! Saturday also marks 4 weeks till we head for the warm waters (80+ degrees) of the Western Caribbean. Work remains the same and after awhile you just reach a point of toleration. DCRTV (Sources: 105.1 Up For Sale? - 12/3) started a rumor we (WAVA) was up for sale. I guess when they run out of news they just make it up. Youth bowling is nearing the end ... 2 weeks to go. The kids are still in first place but we will have to work at it . The adult team is also hanging in their despite last weeks results. All games were very close and hotly contested. Tomorrow night is "Dinner and Movie night" at the Church. So we will be there to have an Italian dinner and watch the movie "Fireproof". Hmmm ... does that mean no Mexican food for lunch?

Wild Mom is fine. She is packing and planning for next month. This is one of her favorite times because of all the crafts opportunities. She will have to pay the house cleaner extra because of all the residue. Lady continues to do what she always does ... everything. She is even dabbling on facebook some now. Before you know it, she will have more friends than I will. #1 still works and then fights with the cheating x-box. It is amazing how many games they make with that darn cheating module hard wired inside. #2 ... well let's say ... no change. Peanut studies hard and is doing well. Now she is planning to do some massage therapy on the side for practice. This should create a lot of smiling faces. AJ is getting over a cold and thrills us by the minute. Watching him Christmas day will be a blast. Princess works. Star is back in Georgia from gallivanting off to Tennessee. She had a blast but like all things ... eventually you must return home.

Thursday night Bible study completed the second week of 10 last night. It is a very good study and is generating quite a bit of discussion. That makes it easy to lead when everyone can't wait to get their $.02 worth into the conversation.

Lots of things going on or upcoming ... but more about them later.

Time to dream .... If you could have one dream come true this Christmas, what would it be?




http://www.dcrtv.com/
Sources: 105.1 Up For Sale? - 12/3

Pork-out Aftermath

This Thanksgiving Holiday was a very good one. We stayed home and celebrated with family. The meal stuffed us not to mention the effect of the chips and dip prior to the meal. We missed two of the grandkids but oh well, that is life. Star was gallivanting about Tennessee while Wild Mom celebrated with Gung-Ho Jen. We have been getting real good use of our friends hot tub ... nothing like sitting outside in the tub in 40 degrees while the steam rises from the water. Everyone of us enjoy the relaxing quiet time. I am very thankful of friends that are a joy to be with. It seems as the economy takes it toll we spend more and more time together having a great time. I can't imagine going through this time alone with no very close friends. Well, except if it was with family. Bowling still continues to wind down. The Youth team is still in first with 2 weeks to go. Can we go wire to wire in first place? The Adult team continues to hang in the second spot. We seem to lose on the same night as the others around us, thus keeping us in 2nd.

#1 is back working after his back issues. How long it will last is any one's guess. #2 continues to avoid the jobs but he is in serious jeopardy of getting his butt kicked out. The meter is running and will appear to run out on Thursday. Time will tell. Peanut is getting smarter and smarter though lately she has been fighting the crud. She also involved in developing her business plan for when she graduates in the late spring of 2010. AJ grows and grows. He is carrying on conversations with you now, even though you don't know exactly what he is saying ... just nod and smile. Lil Princess is also going through that phase so at times you get a double barrel load of kidspeak. Lew is growing and becoming quite good at logic games. In January, he will start his first bowling league. That will prove to be quite interesting. Hopefully he will listen more than #1 did. It took a while for #1 to realize that Dad did know a little bit about the subject. Princess continues to work most the time with an occasional text message. I am horrible at text messaging and fumbling with the microscopic keyboard so not much is said. So I must assume she is well and happy. Star spent the holidays in Tennessee with my nephew and his family. Now we need to get her home from her long vacation this fall and put her to work. She needs some dental work and as we all know ... it costs money.

The cruise grows closer. For those with inquiring minds ... 6-20 January 2010.

Can you believe the New Orleans Saints are 11-0. Who would have thunk that? Needless to say the Redskins are nowhere bound for the Holidays. Old, tired, and retirement-eligible teams usually go nowhere.

11-26-09

Day before Thanksgiving and a 4 day holiday. I hope everyone has a great day and will spend it with someone that truly loves you. If not .. come over here and I will. The feasting has already started. I attacked the chips and dip and got scolded for it. Sniff. Those pies looked good and I have been know to steal them and eat them long before the Thanksgiving dinner. Ahhh so ... secret ninja sneak and grab. I thought about listing everyone and saying something ... but I may forget someone or they take it the wrong way ... so I will just say ... I love each and everyone of you and can think of no better way to show it than giving you a big hug. Separated by time and space ... so I pass you one huge cyber hug!

But one person will get a mention ... Lady ... without her I would be nothing. She is my wife, best friend, confidant, soul mate, and the essence of me ... I LOVE HER!

My prayer is that everyone is safe and happy tomorrow. A special prayer for Blue as he deals with family issues.

Thanks for all the Great memories

Well, Thanksgiving is almost here and thus the Holiday Season will start. I am amazed that Christmas music is already being played ... can't we enjoy the fall holiday first? If they think this will get me in the festive mood and spend more money ... then they are really sucking on some strange weed. If anything, I will balk out of irritation. Bowling continues to be good as the kids are in first place with three weeks to go and the adult team is in second with a long way to go. Lately we have spent time at Carl and Lynne's trying out their new hot tub. Nothing like sitting outside as the water vapor rises and the outside temperature is in the low-50's. Of course the walk out to the tub is fun and one you don't dally on. Work is there and helps keep the stress level elevated. It just isn't as fun anymore. The cruise is only 6 1/2 weeks away. Sun and water with temps in the mid 80's. Gee, that sounds like heaven. Blink-Blink.
Wild Mom is finishing up moving stuff and creating her new craft room. It is keeping her busy and happy. Lady is doing well and gearing up or the baking and cooking season. Tonight is the final on "Dancing With The Stars" and she has her fingers crossed that M`ya wins ... not! #1 is still dealing with his sore back. He tried bowling but after one game had to stop. It sure is tough being "almost 30." His body is slowly breaking down as age takes it toll. Or is it because I am setting the bar too high as I averaged over 200 this weekend? #2 is the same ... no job. Peanut is still learning in school and now she is planning her business. Figuring out a name and business cards provides a lot of laughs but underneath we are very proud of her as she works to make it on her own. Princess works. Star is moving to a new apartment and will spend Thanksgiving in Nashville. She continues to impress us as she makes a life for herself. The kids are great. Serenity is growing and filling out. Her vocabulary makes every conversation a delight. Believe me, she is learning how to flirt, use her eyes and facial expressions to get what she wants. Of course, I am immune. AJ is turning into the little man we knew he would be. It is so much fun watching him grow and learn to talk with with us. Lew is excited about bowling with me in January when the new league starts. This should be fun. The circle is complete as several people are re-entering our lives. They diverged for a few years but are coming back. This enriches our lives so much and gives us a chance to love them more.
I was suprised this morning to find out my home mortgage had been sold and no one told me. In the past I recieved 30-45 days notice it was happening. Oh well, squash the little guy ... he only pays the bill so don't worry.

Storm Clouds are Brewing

Hump Day and I am still alive and kicking. Though the kicking part will become more noticeable. I am getting near the end of the rope and it won't be pretty or comfortable when I reel it back in. Yes, you guessed it ... I am in a fowl mood and nothing good ever comes out of it. I am tired of being used and I guess it is time to start changing that. painful as it may be.

We went to the Gideons Pastor/Spouse Appreciation Dinner as St. Mark's representative. The dinner was the best we have had in quite a while. The speaker was really good. I would have to rate this experience as the best ever and I believe lady feels the same way. The new working hours are the pain in my tush. I am not adjusting or adapting to these new work hours. Besides, I found an easier way to do all this, isn't that the name of the game? How about "Dancing With The Stars" last night? Surprised? We were as we watched it with some good friends. I have several resumes out and hope to hear back on one of them this week. I just gotta do what I have to do. Can you believe Thanksgiving is next week and 5 weeks later we head for the Caribbean and we still have to squeeze Christmas in there somewhere.

Today is 1/2 priced burger day, the highlight of my culinary weekday. The hardest part is waiting for 11:30 when my stomach is growling now and I can smell the grill warming up.

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Great Quote

"As an American I am not so shocked that Obama was given the Nobel Peace Prize without any accomplishments to his name, but that America gave him the White House based on the same credentials."

Newt Gingrich 

Fall is arriving slowly

Well, time marches on and I still can't figure out the drumbeat so I can get in step. This week and the next should prove to be long and tiring as I work over night upgrading the servers. This old body doesn't react well when I flip the sleep cycle. When I was a youngster it was a lot easier. All is is going fine. The kids are about to lock up first place in their league. The adult team hangs on to 2nd place. I am amazed at how things are working out in that league. This week we have a dinner to attend that is hosted by the Gideons. Since the Pastor can't make it, I am filling in. This week the new Bible Study starts so I am reading and planning in my spare time.

Wild Mom is doing fine. She is moving furniture around and preparing for the holidays. Lady just finished a retreat at Sandy Cove, MD. with several ladies from the church. They had a great time with their only wish was for the rain to stop. #1 is about recovered from his pulled back so work and bowling should return to normal. #2, well, no change and no job. Peanut continues to go to school and work to her dream. Her and #2 are slowly getting more active in the young adult group at the church. Star is getting a new phone and will soon be calling me on a regular basis. Looks like she is heading to Chicago when everything falls into place. Gee, she keeps moving further and further away. Princess just works and works. Haven't seen lew and Lil Princess in a while and I sure do miss them. They do grow on you.

TWO CHOICES

What would you do? ... you make the choice. Don't look for a punch line, there isn't one. Read it anyway. My question is: Would you have made the same choice?

At a fundraising dinner for a school that serves children with learning disabilities, the father of one of the students delivered a speech that would never be forgotten by all who attended. After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he offered a question:

'When not interfered with by outside influences,
everything nature does, is done with perfection."

Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other children do. He cannot understand things as other children do. Where is the natural order of things in my son?' The audience was stilled by the query. The father continued ... 'I believe that when a child like Shay, who was mentally and physically disabled comes into the world, an opportunity to realize true human nature presents itself, and it comes in the way other people treat that child.'

Then he told the following story:

Shay and I had walked past a park where some boys Shay knew were playing baseball. Shay asked, 'Do you think they'll let me play?' I knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shay on their team, but as a father I also understood that if my son were allowed to play, it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be accepted by others in spite of his handicaps.

I approached one of the boys on the field and asked (not expecting much) if Shay could play. The boy looked around for guidance and said, 'We're losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we'll try to put him in to bat in the ninth inning.' Shay struggled over to the team's bench and, with a broad smile, put on a team shirt. I watched with a small tear in my eye and warmth in my heart. The boys saw my joy at my son being accepted. In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shay's team scored a few runs but was still behind by three.

In the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and on the field, grinning from ear to ear as I waved to him from the stands.

In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay's team scored again. Now, with two outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat. At this juncture, do they let Shay bat and give away their chance to win the game? Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all but impossible because Shay didn't even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball. However, as Shay stepped up to the plate, the pitcher, recognizing that the other team was putting winning aside for this moment in Shay's life, moved in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least make contact. The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed. The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay. As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground ball right back to the pitcher. The game would now be over. The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman. Shay would have been out and that would have been the end of the game. Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the first baseman's head, out of reach of all team mates. Everyone from the stands and both teams started yelling, 'Shay, run to first! Run to first!' Never in his life had Shay ever run that far, but he made it to first base. He scampered down the baseline, wide-eyed and startled. Everyone yelled, 'Run to second, run to second!' Catching his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and struggling to make it to the base. By the time Shay rounded towards second base, the right fielder had the ball, the smallest guy on their team who now had his first chance to be the hero for his team. He could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he understood the pitcher's intentions so he, too, intentionally threw the ball high and far over the third-baseman's head. Shay ran toward third base deliriously as the runners ahead of him circled the base s toward home. All were screaming, 'Shay, Shay, Shay, all the Way Shay' Shay reached third base because the opposing shortstop ran to help him by turning him in the direction of third base, and shouted, 'Run to third! Shay, run to third!' As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams, and the spectators, were on their feet screaming, 'Shay, run home! Run home!' Shay ran to home, stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the grand slam and won the game for his team.

'That day', said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, 'the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this world'. Shay didn't make it to another summer ... He died that winter, having never forgotten being the hero and making me so happy, and coming home and seeing his Mother tearfully embrace her little hero of the day!

AND NOW A LITTLE FOOT NOTE TO THIS STORY:

We all send thousands of jokes through the e-mail without a second thought, but when it comes to sending messages about life choices, people hesitate. The crude, vulgar, and often obscene pass freely through cyberspace, but public discussion about decency is too often suppressed in our schools and workplaces. If you're thinking about forwarding this message, chances are that you're probably sorting out the people in your address book who aren't the 'appropriate' ones to receive this type of message. Well, the person who sent you this believes that we all can make a difference. We all have thousands of opportunities every single day to help realize the 'natural order of things.' So many seemingly trivial interactions between two people present us with a choice:

Do we pass along a little spark of love and humanity or do we pass up those opportunities and leave the world a little bit colder in the process? A wise man once said every society is judged by how it treats it's least fortunate amongst them.

You now have two choices:
1. Delete
2. Forward

May your day, be a Shay Day.

November Heat Wave

Well, can you believe November is almost halfway done. It doesn't seem like it with the temps we are having ... Low 70's. Even an almost hurricane managed to show up in the Gulf Coast. All is well for the time being at home. Everyone is busy and starting to look forward to the Holiday's. The Fall festival at church was a success. Though the rain did show up we still had a great time. The Moon Bounce was a hit with the kids. Especially with Lil Princess. She loved it. We finished our Bible study of "The Shack" and will be starting a new one by David Jeremiah in a couple weeks. Bowling continues to surprise us. The kid are in first place with a 15 point lead with 4 weeks to go. The adult league team continues to hang onto 2nd place. We seem to get everyone on their off night. Hey, I am not complaining. Work is the same. They want us to smile and be happy but that is hard when the pay and benefits are lowered.

Wild Mom is learning a new security system (ADT). So far only one close call with getting locked in/out. Her holiday's will be quiet but followed up in January with the cruise. lady is preparing for her weekend with the church ladies next weekend. Well, another chance to scrounge for food as I survive as a class B bachelor. #1 pulled his back and messed his bowling up last weekend. Now he has to figure out how to go to work and keep the dollars coming in. #2 has job-dodging to an art. You guessed it ... no job. peanut is still doing great in school and a few people have gotten to experience her massages. Not bad! Lew loved the face painting at the festival and dressing up in his fireman's costume. Lil Princess charmed us all as Elmo. She was easy to see in that red costume. AJ pimped the girls as the GodFather. Though the word are gibberish to me ... he is chattering up a storm. Star is doing well and staying busy. I just miss talking to her though there are a lot of pictures to look at. Hmmm ... I wonder what was under that red skirt in that one group of pictures. Princess works and occasionally texts ... so I guess she is ok.

A old friend I hadn't heard from in a year contacted me this past week. Mainly because I forgot to recreate their email after the Blackhawke Server went down. Anything to make contact once again.

The Eleventh month starts out wet!

Well, another holiday has come and gone. We had a good one especially when the kids dressed up for Trick or Treat. Lew was a fireman, Lil Princess was Elmo and AJ dressed up like the GodFather ... a real gangsta! The Church's fall festival was a lot of fun except for the intermittent rain. Games, crafts and food made us all happy. #2 pained his face to look like the Joker or was that when he washed it off? It escapes me now. Wild Mom is fine and planning for the January trip. We miss her being here but you just have to go home sometimes. Lady is tired. This weekend she pushed hard to finish Brian's memorial quilt. She managed to do it and presented it to the Nursery Class at the church on Sunday. Now she can rest. Except when AJ fills the toilet up with paper and then flushes it creating a pretty waterfall at 6:00 am. #1 is still working but it is spotty at best. #2 is back into his unemployment costume and acting the part quite well. Peanut continues to learn her new trade and is quite good. Her surgery is slowly healing and she is getting back in to the swing of things. She looked very good as "arm candy" for the Godfather AJ. The kids were their usual fun selves and a little bit tiring at their energy level. Lew went home not feeling well and we pray he will do better today. Lil Princess wore her new purple and lace dress with matching socks. That is a picture of beauty that is hard to even match much less beat. AJ was his usual busy self ... not including his morning waterfall and his penchant fo flipping every light switch he can get his fingers on. Not much on the Princess scene ... she always works and sleeps ... honestly ... that is what the texts say! Star is back from Chicago with many new tales of adventure along with pictures. We are hoping to see her sometime this holiday season.

Work, well let it be said that scrooge pales in comparison at the trials and tribulations it presents.

On the bowling scene: the Youth team is in first place with a moderate lead at the halfway point. The Adult team is holding its own possibly in a three way tie for 2nd place. Who would have thought that was possible? Lady wants me to replace her with a better bowler ... nope ... how can I ever replace the light of my life for any reason?

Lady and I talked last night about this Holiday season and have come to a conclusion. We want "NO" gifts. All we want is for the family to eat and spend time together this Christmas. If you must spend money for gifts then donate the money to a church, our church or a charity. Christmas is not our birthday and therefore we don't need any gifts. We want to be with the family. Yes, the grandkids will get them but no adult. Sorry if this interferes or bothers you but we want the family time together to be that special. If you don't understand what we are doing then please ask us.

Yeah ... the Redskins did not lose this weekend ... bummer ... they did not play either. Dan Snyder has banned all signs and banners at the stadium ... he does not want to bust the myth he keeps telling them .... that they are winners and pretty good ones at that!

Chuckles II

A man visiting a graveyard saw a tombstone that read: “Here lies John Smith, a lawyer and an honest man.” “How about that!” he exclaimed. “They’ve got three people buried in one grave.”

Chuckle's

A penguin is driving through a small desert town when his car suddenly experiences some problems. He limps the car to the town's mechanic and explains the problem to him before heading to the shop's waiting area. The mechanic tells him it may be awhile so he may want to take a walk and explore the area. After a little time hitting the sidewalk, the penguin notices an ice cream parlor in the town's square and decides that, being a penguin in the desert, he's hot and could use something cool. So he heads into the parlor and orders a big bowl of vanilla ice cream to enjoy, which he does to the point of making a huge mess all over his face. Upon finishing the treat, he decides it's time to head back toward the shop to see if his car is fixed and ready to go. As he approaches the shop, the mechanic comes walking out to meet him and says 'it looks like you blew a seal'. The penguin quickly cleans off his face and replies 'no no I just had ice cream!'.

A collection of ideas

Another day in my life. No one in our house has swine flu yet. Knock on wood. Wild Mom and Lady are in Pigeon Forge doing craft stuff, watching leaves change and chatting up a storm. So far they are having fun and staying quite busy. Wonder what will happen when the credit cards max out. They may wind up sitting on a bench along the highway and watching the leaves change color. Bowling is doing well, especially on the kids league. The Adult league is a bit harder to hang on to the top spot. But the run in First Place has been fun. The two bible studies that that I have been facilitator for are drawing to a close. I will be glad to get back to a single night and rest a bit. Not much else is going on except adjusting to the everyday changes and roadblocks. I would expect to see many changes come up over the next month or so. I am afraid that some of them will be quite painful and a shock back to reality. Work still continues to be a pain in the Kazoo. Then again, why would I expect it to be any different now. But I will stay there (with conditions) until the job market changes and then "Hasta La Vista Baby".

#1 is back at work and #2 is searching ... somewhat. Peanut had her surgery and is doing fine considering the pain she is in. Her school is going great and graduation day grows closer. AJ grows and is spending a few days with friends since Mom can't lift him. maybe he will return all trained. With Lady gone this weekend, Lew and Lil Princess spent time with their parents. Princess works all the time and the occasional text message lets me know she is alive. Star is gallivanting about the land ... I think Chicago is next but I have not been officially told. A birdie did.

Go old Washington Redskins. Could a team be more dysfunctional? Don't blame the Coaches ... blame the players that don't play to the level they are paid to play at. There are a lot of good players sitting at home that would love the chance to play and especially get paid like the current squad of losers are paid. Where is the $100 Million dollar man? That would have paid for a lot of real players that love the game and feel it is an honor to put the uniform on. This current team thinks the world owes them a win. Well, Detroit, Kansas City, and Panthers earned their wins. The Titans must be ecstatic they off-loaded their liability to the 'Skins. Don't place 100% of the blame on the coach ... at least he deserves a team with a desire to win. Then blame him when he doesn't win. Right now, in my mind the players are the quitters.

Never Fails ... the Strong Prey on the Weak

WARNING TO ALL MEN: Police are warning all men to be on alert and stay cautious this Halloween when offered a drink from any women. Many female sexual predators are using a date rape drug called BEER to entrap men into a scam called a RELATIONSHIP or worse MARRIAGE.

A Reminder of Who we are

A Classic by a Great Man --- Red Skelton

The Pledge of Allegiance

Please enjoy and remember!

Rocky Mountain High

Well, it is Monday and the normal routine returns. The Kansas City conference was great and I learned a lot and even managed to formulate a few ideas to follow-up on. My plane ride (Air Tran and US Airways) out there and back were uneventful not like the boon doggles the others had to tolerate. I even found the Cinnabun stand and had a whole roll. That was the first one I have had in probably a year. Can I go back and get another? Youth Bowling is going great. We have managed to hold onto 1st place that last two weeks. This was in spite of bowling against the two strongest teams on the league. Sunday Night, despite going 5-2, we slipped into 2nd place. While this is nice, I don't expect this to last too much longer. Not that we will collapse but the other teams start really rolling.

Wild Mom is getting excited about her Pigeon Forge trip. I think it is this weekend when they start. Lady will be packing and getting ready for the adventure. #1 and #2 are still waiting for a job to plop into their laps. Ok, who just said "Fat Chance" in the background? Peanut is still getting smarter as she continues to excel in school. We are very proud of her. Princess works and works and works. The kids were all active this weekend. Lew celebrated his 6th Birthday and managed to corral several webkins. Lil Princess talks more and more. This action must be in-bred into her, because all females do it or are capable of it. AJ is a dynamo of activity. If it is there ... he must pick it up.

Work is the same. That is one constant and pain in the butt thing about my life.

Well, except for the Redskins who always lose and blame everything else for the problem.

Who knew?

Did you know that drinking two glasses of Gatorade can relieve headache pain almost immediately-without the unpleasant side effects caused by traditional pain relievers?

Did you know that Colgate Toothpaste makes an excellent salve for burns?

Before you head to the drugstore for a high-priced inhaler filled with mysterious chemicals, try chewing on a couple of curiously strong Altoids peppermints. They'll clear up your stuffed nose.

Achy muscles from a bout of the flu? Mix 1 tablespoon horseradish in 1 cup of olive oil. Let the mixture sit for 30 minutes, then apply it as a massage oil for instant relief for aching muscles.

Sore throat? Just mix 1/4 cup of vinegar with 1/4 cup of honey and take 1 tablespoon six times a day. The vinegar kills the bacteria.

Cure urinary tract infections with Alka-Seltzer. Just dissolve two tablets in a glass of water and drink it at the onset of the symptoms. Alka-Seltzer begins eliminating urinary tract infections almost instantly-even though the product was never advertised for this use.

Honey remedy for skin blemishes ... cover the blemish with a dab of honey and place a Band-Aid over it. Honey kills the bacteria, keeps the skin sterile, and speeds healing. Works overnight.

Listerine therapy for toenail fungus: Get rid of unsightly toenail fungus by soaking your toes in Listerine Mouthwash. The powerful antiseptic leaves your toenails looking healthy again.

Easy eyeglass protection ... to prevent the screws in eyeglasses from loosening, apply a small drop of Maybelline Crystal Clear Nail Polish to the threads of the screws before tightening them.

Cleaning liquid that doubles as bug killer... if menacing bees, wasps, hornets, or yellow jackets get in your home and you can't find the insecticide, try a spray of Formula 409. Insects drop to the ground instantly.

Smart splinter remover: Just pour a drop of Elmer's Glue-All over the splinter, let dry, and peel the dried glue off the skin. The splinter sticks to the dried glue.

Hunt's Tomato Paste boil cure ... cover the boil with Hunt's Tomato Paste as a compress. The acids from the tomatoes soothe the pain and bring the boil to a head.

Balm for broken blisters ... to disinfect a broken blister, dab on a few drops of Listerine, a powerful antiseptic.

Vinegar to heal bruises ... soak a cotton ball in white vinegar and apply it to the bruise for 1 hour. The vinegar reduces the blueness and speeds up the healing process.

Quaker Oats for fast pain relief ... it's not for breakfast any more! Mix 2 cups of Quaker Oats and 1 cup of water in a bowl and warm in the microwave for 1 minute, cool slightly, and apply the mixture to your hands for soothing relief from arthritis pain.

Another Fall Month

Well, I am still here though I haven't been as faithful to posting like I should be. Our weekend in Virginia Beach was great and we had a lot of fun on the boardwalk. The Neptune festival was going on and the crowds were large. But we managed to walk almost 2 laps of the Boardwalk. Dinner was at Ruddees and it was all it was said to be. This Wednesday, I head to Kansas City for a leadership Institute with several other members from our church. I am actually looking forward to this event. Maybe they will get through this thick skull of mind and teach me something. Think so? Not! Bowling is in full swing and so far we have been successful this season. Both teams are in first place. How, I am not sure but we are doing it so far.

Wild Mom is doing fine and settling in for the winter. However, she is looking forward to her's and Lady's weekend in Pigeon Forge later this month. Lady is busy sewing Brian's blanket and doing her usual stuff she does. She keeps busy that is for sure. #1 and #2 are now in between jobs. The contract expired and there was no renewal. So we are back into the searching mode ... and that sucks. Peanut is doing great in school and starting to plan post graduate things. The three little ones are growing like weeds. Lew will be 6 this week. What happened to that little boy? Lil Princess is growing too but she is so dainty and sweet I wonder how many hearts she will break before all is said and done. She sat there Saturday night asking me to brush her hair. It is so fine care must be taken not to break or pull it out. AJ is starting to put words together and make us laugh. He is very active and loves to climb. When all three are there my head moves like it is on a swivel. Princess works and works and works .... all work and no play means she will be all dull before long. I couldn't even get her to go to ChincoTeague or Williamsburg for the weekend. Oh well, Cats in the Cradle.

Do You Understand?

IF YOU CROSS THE NORTH KOREAN BORDER ILLEGALLY YOU GET 12 YEARS HARD LABOR ...

IF YOU CROSS THE IRANIAN BORDER ILLEGALLY YOU ARE DETAINED INDEFINITELY ...

BUT, IF YOU CROSS THE U.S. BORDER ILLEGALLY YOU GET A DRIVERS LICENSE, SOCIAL SECURITY CARD, WELFARE, FOOD STAMPS, AND FREE HEALTH CARE?

I guess I still don't understand... 

Mens Rules

Men's Rules - AUTHOR UNKNOWN:

We always hear "the rules " From the female side. Now here are the rules from the male side. These are our rules! Please note.. these are all numbered "1" ON PURPOSE!

1. Men ARE not mind readers.
1. Learn to work the toilet seat. You're a big girl. If it's up, put it down. We need it up, you need it down. You don't hear us complaining about you leaving it down.
1. Sunday sports. It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.
1. Shopping is NOT a sport. And no, we are never going to think of it that way.
1. Crying is blackmail.
1. Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one:
Subtle hints do not work!
Strong hints do not work!
Obvious hints do not work!
Just say it!
1. Yes and No are perfectly Acceptable answers to almost every question.
1. Come to us with a problem only If you want help solving it. That's what we do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
1. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem . See a doctor.
1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, all comments become null and void after 7 Days.
1. If you won't dress like the Victoria 's Secret girls, don't Expect us to act like soap opera guys.
1. If you think you're fat, you probably are. Don't ask us.
1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one.
1. You can either ask us to do something Or tell us how you want it done. Not both. If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.
1. Whenever possible, Please say whatever you have to say during commercials.
1. Christopher Columbus did NOT need directions and neither do we.
1. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings. Peach, for example, is a fruit, not! A color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what mauve is.
1. If it itches, it will Be scratched. We do that.
1. If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," We will act like nothing is wrong. We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.
1. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, Expect an answer you don't want to hear.
1. Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as baseball, the shotgun formation, or golf.
1. You have enough clothes.
1. You have too many shoes.
1. I am in shape. Round IS a shape!
1. Thank you for reading this. Yes, I know, I have to sleep on the couch tonight; But did you know men really don't mind that? It's like camping..

Have A great Day

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God **Saw you **hungry** & created McDonald's, Wendy's, and Dairy Queen.** *
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He saw you **thirsty** & created Coke, ** Juice, Coffee and Water. *
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GOD saw you **in the dark** & created Light. **
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GOD saw you without a ** Good looking **, ** adorable** **, ** FRIEND........* *
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Whizzing by

Well, another week has gone by and I am still behind on my postings. Where does the time go? This use to all fit into my day. This weekend we are going to Crownsville MD for the Renaissance Faire. That is always a great time and goes by way too quickly. The Fall/Winter Bowling leagues have started. I am doing better than the last several years (185 and 189 averages). I won't say much about the others scores lest I embarrass them.

Labor Day weekend was spent taking Wild Mom to the Family reunion in Illinois and then to Florida. She was up here in Virginia nearly a month and we enjoyed the whole time. She really liked our Bible Study group and all the activity around the house. It is never quiet. Lady is doing well but it is a struggle to keep up with things at times. She put quite a bit of time into a remembrance activity for a close friend who died less than 2 months ago. #1 and #2 are still working but the contract is drawing to a close. Hopefully something will get worked out and they can continue on. Peanut is doing great in school though she is under the weather today ... sinuses. I am still waiting for that first massage, sure would be nice after a day at the bowling alley. Oh well. We are proud of her as she fight hard to make this all work out. Princess has finished her move to the new house and we get to see her occasionally. She seems to work all the time. AJ, Lil Princess and Lou are growing like weeds. The two little ones are starting to say (err repeat what they hear). So we must guard what we say. Lou is starting school and likes it so far ... only 12 more years. Star is still in Georgia and making a living. She really enjoys the film shoots ... who knows when she will be on a billboard. We miss her.

Another football season has started and the headlines remain the same ... Redskins Lose. Somethings never change.

Subject: For dog lovers ... and patriot

A touching story about an adopted Black Lab. A bit long.. but worth it in the end - a guaranteed tear-jerker. What a story ...

They told me the big black Lab's name was Reggie as I looked at him lying in his pen. the shelter was clean, no-kill, and the people really friendly. I'd only been in the area for six months, but everywhere I went in the small college town, people were welcoming and open Everyone waves when you pass them on the street.

But something was still missing as I attempted to settle in to my new life here, and I thought a dog couldn't hurt. Give me someone to talk to. And I had just seen Reggie's advertisement on the local news. The shelter said they had received numerous calls right after, but they said the people who had come down to see him just didn't look like "Lab people," whatever that meant. They must have thought I did.

But at first, I thought the shelter had misjudged me in giving me Reggie and his things, which consisted of a dog pad, bag of toys almost all of which were brand new tennis balls, his dishes, and a sealed letter from his previous owner. See, Reggie and I didn't really hit it off when we got home. We struggled for two weeks (which is how long the shelter told me to give him to adjust to his new home). Maybe it was the fact that I was trying to adjust, too. Maybe we were too much alike.

For some reason, his stuff (except for the tennis balls - he wouldn't go anywhere without two stuffed in his mouth) got tossed in with all of my other unpacked boxes. I guess I didn't really think he'd need all his old stuff, that I'd get him new things once he settled in. but it became pretty clear pretty soon that he wasn't going to.

I tried the normal commands the shelter told me he knew, ones like "sit" and "stay" and "come" and "heel," and he'd follow them - when he felt like it. He never really seemed to listen when I called his name - sure, he'd look in my direction after the fourth of fifth time I said it, but then he'd just go back to doing whatever. When I'd ask again, you could almost see him sigh and then grudgingly obey.

This just wasn't going to work. He chewed a couple shoes and some unpacked boxes I was a little too stern with him and he resented it, I could tell. The friction got so bad that I couldn't wait for the two weeks to be up, and when it was, I was in full-on search mode for my cellphone amid all of my unpacked stuff. I remembered leaving it on the stack of boxes for the guest room, but I also mumbled, rather cynically, that the "damn dog probably hid it on me."

Finally I found it, but before I could punch up the shelter's number, I also found his pad and other toys from the shelter ... I tossed the pad in Reggie's direction and he snuffed it and wagged, some of the most enthusiasm I'd seen since bringing him home. But then I called, "Hey, Reggie, you like that? Come here and I'll give you a treat." Instead, he sort of glanced in my direction - maybe "glared" is more accurate - and then gave a discontented sigh and flopped down. With his back to me.

Well, that's not going to do it either, I thought. And I punched the shelter phone number.

But I hung up when I saw the sealed envelope. I had completely forgotten about that, too. "Okay, Reggie," I said out loud, "let's see if your previous owner has any advice." ...

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To Whoever Gets My Dog:

Well, I can't say that I'm happy you're reading this, a letter I told the shelter could only be opened by Reggie's new owner ... I'm not even happy writing it. If you're reading this, it means I just got back from my last car ride with my Lab after dropping him off at the shelter. He knew something was different. I have packed up his pad and toys before and set them by the back door before a trip, but this time ... it's like he knew something was wrong. And something is wrong ... which is why I have to go to try to make it right.

So let me tell you about my Lab in the hopes that it will help you bond with him and he with you.

First, he loves tennis balls. the more the merrier. Sometimes I think he's part squirrel, the way he hordes them. He usually always has two in his mouth, and he tries to get a third in there. Hasn't done it yet. Doesn't matter where you throw them, he'll bound after it, so be careful - really don't do it by any roads. I made that mistake once, and it almost cost him dearly.

Next, commands. Maybe the shelter staff already told you, but I'll go over them again: Reggie knows the obvious ones - "sit," "stay," "come," "heel." He knows hand signals: "back" to turn around and go back when you put your hand straight up; and "over" if you put your hand out right or left. "Shake" for shaking water off, and "paw" for a high-five. He does "down" when he feels like lying down - I bet you could work on that with him some more. He knows "ball" and "food" and "bone" and "treat" like nobody's business.

I trained Reggie with small food treats. Nothing opens his ears like little pieces of hot dog.

Feeding schedule: twice a day, once about seven in the morning, and again at six in the evening. Regular store-bought stuff; the shelter has the brand.

He's up on his shots. Call the clinic on 9th Street and update his info with yours; they'll make sure to send you reminders for when he's due. Be forewarned: Reggie hates the vet Good luck getting him in the car - I don't know how he knows when it's time to go to the vet, but he knows.

Finally, give him some time. I've never been married, so it's only been Reggie and me for his whole life. He's gone everywhere with me, so please include him on your daily car rides if you can. He sits well in the backseat, and he doesn't bark or complain. He just loves to be around people, and me most especially.

Which means that this transition is going to be hard, with him going to live with someone new.

And that's why I need to share one more bit of info with you ... His name's not Reggie

I don't know what made me do it, but when I dropped him off at the shelter, I told them his name was Reggie. He's a smart dog, he'll get used to it and will respond to it, of that I have no doubt. but I just couldn't bear to give them his real name. For me to do that, it seemed so final, that handing him over to the shelter was as good as me admitting that I'd never see him again. And if I end up coming back, getting him, and tearing up this letter, it means everything is fine. But if someone else is reading it, well ... well it means that his new owner should know his real name. It'll help you bond with him. Who knows, maybe you'll even notice a change in his demeanor if he's been giving you problems.

His real name is Tank. Because that is what I drive.

Again, if you're reading this and you're from the area, maybe my name has been on the news. I told the shelter that they couldn't make "Reggie" available for adoption until they received word from my company commander. See, my parents are gone, I have no siblings, no one I could have left Tank with ... and it was my only real request of the Army upon my deployment to Iraq, that they make one phone call the the shelter ... in the "event" ... to tell them that Tank could be put up for adoption. Luckily, my colonel is a dog guy, too, and he knew where my platoon was headed. He said he'd do it personally. And if you're reading this, then he made good on his word.

Well, this letter is getting to downright depressing, even though, frankly, I'm just writing it for my dog. I couldn't imagine if I was writing it for a wife and kids and family. but still, Tank has been my family for the last six years, almost as long as the Army has been my family.

And now I hope and pray that you make him part of your family and that he will adjust and come to love you the same way he loved me.

That unconditional love from a dog is what I took with me to Iraq as an inspiration to do something selfless, to protect innocent people from those who would do terrible things ... and to keep those terrible people from coming over here. If I had to give up Tank in order to do it, I am glad to have done so. He was my example of service and of love. I hope I honored him by my service to my country and comrades.

All right, that's enough. I deploy this evening and have to drop this letter off at the shelter. I don't think I'll say another good-bye to Tank, though. I cried too much the first time. Maybe I'll peek in on him and see if he finally got that third tennis ball in his mouth.

Good luck with Tank. Give him a good home, and give him an extra kiss goodnight - every night - from me.

Thank you, Paul Mallory

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I folded the letter and slipped it back in the envelope. Sure I had heard of Paul Mallory, everyone in town knew him, even new people like me. Local kid, killed in Iraq a few months ago and posthumously earning the Silver Star when he gave his life to save three buddies. Flags had been at half-mast all summer.

I leaned forward in my chair and rested my elbows on my knees, staring at the dog.

"Hey, Tank," I said quietly.

The dog's head whipped up, his ears cocked and his eyes bright.

"C'mere boy."

He was instantly on his feet, his nails clicking on the hardwood floor. He sat in front of me, his head tilted, searching for the name he hadn't heard in months.

"Tank," I whispered.

His tail swished.

I kept whispering his name, over and over, and each time, his ears lowered, his eyes softened, and his posture relaxed as a wave of contentment just seemed to flood him. I stroked his ears, rubbed his shoulders, buried my face into his scruff and hugged him.

"It's me now, Tank, just you and me. Your old pal gave you to me." Tank reached up and licked my cheek. "So whatdaya say we play some ball? His ears perked again. "Yeah? Ball? You like that? Ball?" Tank tore from my hands and disappeared in the next room.

And when he came back, he had three tennis balls in his mouth.

I dare you to watch this and tell me it is worth it

Texting While Driving

I love everyone of my kids and pray they don't fall into this trap!

The Insurance Companies now tell us this is a big problem and the biggest cause of accidents. I believe Operating a Motor Vehicle while using the handheld Cell Phone should be outlawed with severe penalties ... to die because someone just couldn't concentrate on driving for a few minutes. Is it worth it????

Way Too Long

Looking at the Blog site I realized I haven't been that faithful in keeping it current. A lot has happened, so maybe I can blame it on that. September holds for us a weekend in Virginia Beach and the Maryland Renaissance Faire. We are looking forward to going for our fifth year. O'Danny Girls, here we come! The Youth League finished with us in the middle of the field. The team never really jelled and we lost too many close ones that we should have won. I will have to look hard at the team composition and make some needed changes so we can be competitive. I did manage to finish with a 194 average and hold the third high average. The winter Adult League starts next Sunday ... the start of 30+ weeks of bowling. For me ... it is the chance for a lot of dates with my sweety.

Wild Mom is here with us for a summer vacation. We will take her home on Labor Day Weekend. It has been fun for us but she has managed to stay sick most of the time with sinus and numbness in her arm. Maybe she brought that from my sister's house. The dog has enjoyed the company and the little kids that drop food all the time. Lady has been busy, her boss went to Greece leaving her in charge, but managed to get the time off for our weekend in Williamsburg Va. She is really looking forward to the third weekend in September when we go to Virginia Beach for the weekend. Right in the middle of this time, we lost a really good friend. Brian Powell left us on his Birthday. We will miss him a lot.

Star was here for a week for the funeral. That was fun for us but I know she was ready to head back for Georgia and get back to life. living out of suitcases for a long time gets hard. It was so hard, she even managed to leave her keys and cigarette case. #1 and #2 both work now. Can you believe that? We are now hoping the contract with Verizon is renewed and they continue on for a lot longer. #1 has even managed to get promoted in all this. #2 is enjoying the sensation of having money in his wallet. Hopefully he will grow accustom to that and not let the cobwebs form there again. Princess has moved to a bigger place ... a single family house only a few blocks away from us. She continues to fill every second of her day with work. For me, keep every minute for myself and having fun. Lew, Lil Princess, and AJ continue to grow and keep us laughing. The two little ones amaze us with their new vocabulary and the ways they use the words. AJ still hasn't quite figured out that the pool is not the bathroom. Peanut is now a school girl once again. She has started to take classes at Everest College in order to become a Massage Therapist. We all are excited for her ... none more so than her. Now let me see ... peanut butter massage ... hmmmm!

Getting ready for the Dog Days

We are safely back from Indiana. The drive was uneventful but long (10+ hours). It was a great time and in many ways I wished it would never end. Lady's surprise of her brother on his birthday was complete. He was speechless as was her sister who walked by Lady before realizing who it was. Lew loved the pool and AJ even managed to splash his feet in the pool too. My neice, the fish, showed me all her swimming skills and filled my ears with tales of her swim meets. I really did enjoy that time and even the wrestling matches with her next day. Lady's parent's house and property are somewhere I could retire and really enjoy life. The town is so laid back and quiet. Life is so fast there ... they drive golf carts around town and there isn't a golf course in miles. #1 and peanut are still working. Though Peanut really missed AJ. It is amazing how those lil beggars get too you. AJ learned one new word very well and used it every possible second that he could speak. He wore out the word "Bye." #2 is still suffering from noworkitis. I believe the disease isn't fatal but it sure saps your energy away. Star celebrated her birthday (?? years) in Hilton Head and Monday finally returned to reality in Georgia. Princess is still working like a mule and occasionally stops to say hi or is it "hee haw?" Now we can start looking forward to the next weekend adventure in August ... Williamsburg Va. Work is the same. I am very happy that it is the one constant pain in my life. That helps me maintain a foot in reality. More to come later!!!

A Fathers Love Letter

I saw this and felt it should be shared ...

Summer Heat - I

Well, I guess I had better get this updated ... I have been asleep at the wheel. This weekend we head to Indiana so see Lady's Mother and attend a suprise party. That should prove to be interesting. Wild Mom is doing fine but cabin fever is rampant. Hopefully, I will be able to rescue her for a few weeks and then visit the Heisner Reunion on the way home. Star gets older today! Though she did go to Hilton Head SC without me. Sniff! Believe it or not .... #1 got a job as Inventory Specialist with Verizon. Miracles do happen. Now, what will it take for #2 to get one ... an act of God? Lew, Lil Princess and AJ are growing like weeds and getting good use out of the pool. I swear sometimes they are more fish than Human. We had a nice evening with Princess and I even managed to spend less than $50 during the short shopping trip we made. I wouldn't even try that with Lady or Wild Mom.

Future Plans:
Indiana
Williamsburg (Aug)
Virginia Beach (Sept)
Pigeon Forge TN (Oct)
Caribbean (Jan)

Work is the same ... just a little slow as we tend to fix things once and for all. Maybe "Fixing Stupid" is on summer vacation.

Cool Summer

Another week starts. The best part is Cheng is back. Not that the work is that hard ... but we get to share the idiocy that permeates this place. The weekend was quiet and slow. The highlights included Rita's Ice from Potomac Mills. Saturday's El Agave trip was nice and the food was all we expected. Of course AJ, Lew, and Lil Princess devoured the guacamole (2 bowls worth). Wild Mom is doing fine (healing) but cabin fever is in full force as she still hasn't been cleared to drive. Any one can feel free to call her and chat a bit, I know she will enjoy that a lot. Also there is a discussion started about bringing her up here for a few weeks. But nothing final was decided. Lady is doing well and for the most part this weekend rested, if that is possible with three kids hanging around. The three kids (AJ, Lew and Lil Princess) spent the weekend eating Popsicles, hot dogs and swimming in their new pool. They had a blast and now our summer routine consists of just that. #1 and #2 still can't wrestle down those elusive jobs. It is all in the approach. Don't focus on that 9% don't have a job but realize that 91% do have jobs. Peanut is fine and working away at her job. She and AJ did manage to go to the National Zoo and have a great time. Princess has been spending some time with us this weekend and that really made this weekend special. We hope this is the start of something fantastic. We capped our weekend off with Klines Ice Cream after youth bowling. The Bowling is doing fine. I even managed to get hooked up last night and roll a 184-202-275=661. That should bounce my average a bit.

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I love it when Derrick Mason wants us to not judge McNair and forget his cheating. What you do on the football field doesn't dismiss or cancel what you do off the field. You are a member of society first and a little bit of honesty and integrity, not to mention fidelity and honesty comes first.

Lance continues to stay close ... feels like the viper is about to strike.

The Nationals Coach got the hook last night. I love it when the players play like junior college players and the Coach gets the axe. He didn't drop the fly ball. I don't have much respect for the players who don't play up to their level or even play to the level of their compensation. I would rather see the Potomac Nationals (Carolina League) play for they are trying to the BEST of their ability to try and make this sorry national League team. What irony ... trying hard to make a losing team.

I Love You

Someone who loves me a lot sent this ... and I now sent it to you

One day a woman's husband died, and on that clear, old morning, in the warmth of their bedroom, the wife was struck with the pain of learning that sometimes there isn't "anymore." No more hugs, no more special moments to celebrate together, no more phone calls just to chat, no more "just one minute."

Sometimes, what we care about the most gets all used up and goes away, never to return before we can say good-bye, say "I love you."

So while we have it, it's best we love it, care for it, fix it when it's broken and heal it when it's sick. This is true for marriage ... and old cars, and children with bad report cards,
and dogs with bad hips, family and aging parents and grandparents. We keep them because they are worth it ... because we are worth it.

Some things we keep -- like a best friend who moved away or a sister-in-law after divorce ... There are just some things that make us happy, no matter what.

Life is important. We only have one. We only have one mom, one dad, one unique brother or sister or friend.

Suppose one morning you never wake up. Do all your friends know you love them?

I was thinking .. I could die today, tomorrow or next week, and I wondered if I had any wounds needing to be healed, friendships that needed rekindling or three words needing to be said.

Let every one of your friends and family know you love them. Even if you think they don't love you back, you would be amazed at what those three little words and a smile can do.

And just in case GOD calls me home ... I LOVE You ! :-)

Live today to the fullest because tomorrow is not promised!

More Fun in the Sun

I hope everyone had a safe and happy July 4th. We did. Lots of grilling outside and the cranking up of homemade Ice Cream were the tops. Friday included a Potomac Nationals Baseball game with fireworks at the end. Yes, they won 6-5 more than could be said about the Nationals. We skipped the large crowds Saturday by staying home and relaxing with a bowl of Ice Cream. Thursday started my long weekend with one of my teeth being pulled out. I was only in the chair over 2 1/2 hours. It was not fun but I have managed to dodge all the pain and problems following the surgery. Lew and Lil Princess spent the holidays with their parents. Peanut, #1 and #2 were their normal selves. Star is in Pennsylvania visiting. Sunday Bowling was ok as we managed to win (7-0) and move up from our middle of the pack position. Lady is now on Facebook, that took a bunch of talking. Wild Mom is doing well and having a blast while she waits for the next trip.

Looks like a July trip to Indiana is in the works. More to come.
Reservations are confirmed for September in Virginia Beach.

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Tour De France is almost here.

"Dating Relationship" is what they call it between McNair and some 20 year old. He is married with kids and I call it ... Adultry, Affair, and wrong.

I lucked out and didn't get a ticket to see them plant Wacko Jacko. The Doctors had a real quandry with what to do with his body at the Morgue on Tuesday. You see, recycle pickup wasn't until Friday.