Wednesday, November 30, 2005
Hump Day Thoughts
Dear Friends: -- Today was a pretty quiet day. Not much change…good or bad! However, Tabby did see Paul’s left eye opened!! She was so excited. It may be nothing but we feel encouraged by any activity we see! The neurosurgeon ordered a CT scan for this morning to check the fluid pooling in Paul’s brain and he ordered testing for bacteria in the spinal fluid. Both showed things were going well so he has decided to do the shunt surgery on Wednesday instead of later in the week. He wants to do it while Paul is at his “best”. It is encouraging that he feels Paul is strong enough to endure yet another surgery. Many people have told me stories about shunts (along with the info I found on the web). I feel that this will be a procedure that I can have confidence in since many people have them and live very normal lives! After the surgery Paul will return to the Neuro Trauma ICU where he will stay for a bit longer. The neurosurgeon made it clear that he thinks it is too early to move Paul to intermediate care. I was relieved since I don’t feel he is ready either. All the time he spends in ICU is just more chance for his healing with the best medical advantages. We don’t know what time the surgery will be on Wednesday since he will be a “squeeze in” when they have time to do it. Please remember him in your daily prayer! P.S. One of the young guys that came in a few days before Paul went on to Rehab today. He was in an accident where he rolled his car and had similar head trauma. Praise God for Austin’s recovery!! -- Love, Lynne & Carl
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#1 had a job interview today .. thunk! Maybe something good will happen in a few days.
The new job is going well. Yes, the hours are long and the work constant but it is fun and challenging. The worst part is cleaning up the neglected crap while pushing forward with everything else.
Why can't Major League Baseball leave the Nationals new stadium alone. Yes, the D.C. council isn't the brightest and usually overspends money they don't have, that is no reason for MLB to make its demands.
Thanks Govenor Warner. Your misplaced compassion for a man convicted of murder will cost me many tax dollars as I pay for him to live for the rest of his life. If you were so sure the trial was questionable enough to commute the death sentence why not reschedule him a new trial? You didn't because that is just a smoke screen for your decision based on political aspirations. When will you commute the death sentence for the victim? I won't vote for a man with weak principles.
Tuesday, November 29, 2005
Update 8
Dear Friends: -- Boy, what a roller coaster ride this is!! Today Carl & Tabby talked to the head of neurosurgery at the hospital. He said that according to the tests they ran there is evidence that Paul's body is not absorbing the spinal fluid in the brain and he will need a shunt that will be inserted in the skull and have a tube draining the fluid to his stomach. This may end up being a permanent solution which the Doctor was sure to advise us would be associated with risk of infection or malfunction from time to time. He also was sure to "remind" Carl that Paul has a "very, very severe head injury" and he was not hopeful that Paul would ever wake up and if he did there was a great possibility that he would be severely mentally and physically handicapped. This was very disturbing to hear. Tabby asked the nurse to page Paul's neurosurgeon so we could get his spin on this situation. He has been very helpful throughout this ordeal. He finally came in around 8:30 pm to talk to us. He painted a little better picture. The shunt will need to be done but he seemed to think that there is a possibility that it could be removed in a year or two when the brain has done all of it's healing. Even if it stays in permanently he made it sound like it would not be a problem. He also said that he would not do any surgery until late this week or early next week since Paul evidently had a case of meningitis that they have been fighting with antibiotics. He wants a few days to go by before he is comfortable that the infection is gone before doing surgery. He made it clear that he is NOT giving up on Paul and that there is a real chance Paul can recover. We won't know anything of course until he wakes up....only time will tell!! We as a family still feel hopeful and are seeing signs that Paul is healing. We will continue to pray that God will restore Paul to us very soon! -- Love, Lynne
Sunday, November 27, 2005
Monday Blues -- Almost!
Dear Friends: -- Today was mostly quiet, however some significant things happened. According to Paul's nurse this morning there was a time when she was changing out one of his tubes when she noticed his left eye opened!! We haven't seen it but she tried to straighten his head up and stir him to open it again while we were in the room. He looked like he was trying very hard to open it but wasn't successful. This is just another indication that he is very close to awakening!!! The other great thing that happened today is...they crimped the drainage tube that has been draining fluid from the skull thus preventing any draining. This is significant because if his inter-cranial pressure (ICP) does not increase they will be able to remove the tube...maybe Monday! He has been so stable for about a week now!! A CT scan will be done on Monday morning around 4am. After the Neurosurgeon comes in there is a possibility that he will be moved to an intermediate care wing (depending on bed space). Although he is still in a coma we are excited and encouraged by this step! This Thanksgiving weekend has been full of things we can be thankful for!! Today being the first Sunday of Advent inspired the nurses to decorate the ward with Christmas decorations. It is a cheerful site. I pray that Paul will be awake and able to celebrate the season with us! Thanks for your continued prayer & love! -- Love, Lynne & Carl
Sunday was relatively quiet and flowed pretty much as every Sunday goes. Church and Bowling. The Youth Bowling was fun as TP bowled and she kept the young guys all stirred up. Right now Sunday afternoon bowling is a total laughing time. The evening bowling went well but I was just a bit out of it. I always seemed just a slight phase shift out of sorts. Don't know why but I don't like it. Maybe more afternoon delight would help!
#2 did not go back to Charlestown. Right now I am simmering. But the proverbial caca will hit the fan very soon. Actually as soon as I cool down and can think straight. Needless to say, it was a complete disappointment when he made his decision. He isn't self-disciplined enough to make this work like he imagines it. If life and job hunting was simple as he thinks, why didn't it work for him three months ago? He will learn that taking job advice from someone that can't get or hold a job himself is a great recipe for a disaster. But, all I can do now is set the rules and then take swift action when he blows it. I totally refuse to roll over and be an easy touch.
Lew was a riot Saturday and Sunday. All the time it seemed like an echo was there as he parroted everything we said. Don't you just love the 2’s? This Christmas should prove to be real fun as he can now grasp a bit of what is happening throughout the holidays and in some way communicate it back to us.
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Hail to the Deadskins ... err .. Redskins. They blew another 4th quarter lead and lost. I think this week the fat lady will sing and the constant chatter of playoffs will go away. It is sad when they finally realize the inevitable -- they are losers.
Gee, the protesters are back at Crawford. You know that she has been there and left numerous times for "personal family matters." Well, lady -- grow up and go home. It seems your family needs you more and if you stay at home you can help them more than you are helping the memory of your hero son.
Update 7
Dear Friends -- Another pretty good day. :-) When Carl and I arrived today we found that Paul had been completely removed from the respirator. Now he is breathing on his own!! Praise God! He is still experiencing some pain from the surgery on his foot but not nearly as much as last night. The nurse says she believes he will be moved to the intermediate intensive care maybe as early as Monday or Tuesday. He is very stable and doing great. He is still not awake but we hope to see him wake up very soon! The faces in the ICU change almost daily. There are so many trauma victims over the weekends especially. We see so many tragedies each day and it makes me so thankful to have my son alive and doing better. Please continue to remember them and their families in your prayers. God Bless -- Love, Lynne & Carl
Today was a relaxing day. We ate mexican food and had a great time celebrating Lynne's birthday ... her 28th for the ... gee I forget how many times now. Michael, Barry, Missy and Lew were there. Watching Lew devour the guacamole is fun but we must get him to quit double dipping. My enchiladas hit the spot.
#2 is supposed to leave for school tomorrow and that should prove to make Sunday fairly tense. He has 10 million reasons why he shouldn't go back. We are trying to point out to him the benefits. He feels 3 months at school, a GED, and a few classes on job hunting have equipped him to tackle the world. So who knows what tomorrow holds.
Youth bowling tomorrow will be another experience and time of smiles. This new team just hasn't come together. It is probably another season from making a serious run for first place. Last week a young lady (TP) subbed for one of our missing girls. She wants to bowl with us next year but though she is good and would help us I don't know if I could handle it. Two very young and beautiful 14 year olds ( TP and MG) are a sight to watch. This newest young lady (TP) had all the guys strutting their stuff and doing their best to impress her. I couldn't quit laughing. She stood there at the ball return and her opponent picked her ball up for her and then he promptly through a gutter ball on his turn. I wonder if I did that at his age. And for the inquiring minds, yes MG through a 206 and beat me and my 198. Her average is now up to 145. MG has come a long way from an average of 90 since I started coaching her. She finished last season as the Youth Bowler of the Year. So tomorrow should prove interesting if she bowls with us.
Monday I will get my 5 tickets to the pre-showing of the new movie "Narnia". We will get to see it on December the 8th prior to its National debut on the 9th. We are excited and interested in how they choose to portray the book.
Today I started a project I have wanted to do for a long time. I started reworking my stories and redesigning the web site. As I cleaned all the HTML up, I read some and man did the memories come back. When I will get done is anyone's guess but I will slowly bang away at it.
Well, our advance registration for the cruise is done along with choosing our excursions. The confirmation came back today for all the ones we choose. This time next month we will be intransit to the port. Well, actually, we will be there in a Charleston hotel trying to sleep knowing tomorrow we cruise off into paradise.
Thursday, November 24, 2005
Thanksgiving 2005
Paul's Update: 11/23/05
Dear Friends: -- Another pretty quiet day, still more improvement but in small increments. The physical therapist showed Carl how he can exercise Paul's arms & legs. She also showed him some ways to stimulate Paul to wake him. The nurses are pleased with his progress. I saw his eyes moving tonight and it looks like he is trying to open them. I try to not get too anxious but I'm hopeful that he will wake up soon. Friday Paul will have the surgery on his foot. It is scheduled for 8:00 am. Thanksgiving day will be a time for us to spend with family. We are most certainly thankful that Paul is with us and we are thankful that our family can celebrate that!! Tabby will spend the day at the hospital with Paul. We are also thankful for you….our friends & family. God has been so good to us. We praise Him for His love and grace. I hope you and your family have a wonderful Thanksgiving. Don't eat too much Turkey…and enjoy those pies!! :) We love you!! -- Lynne & Carl
Paul's Update: 11/24/05
Dear Friends: -- Today was a GREAT day! Paul actually reached with his left hand for the suction tube when his nurse attempted to clean out his mouth. This is wonderful because it takes conscious effort to do that kind of action. Tabby was there to see this happen and of course she was thrilled! He continues to have progress every day which we are grateful for. This was a day to be thankful for. Friday he will have surgery for his foot and ankle. The time has been changed to 10am. We will be there before and will probably stay most of the day. This weekend started the holiday season for Christmas. Please remember families who will suffer trauma and loss during this time. Many new families came into the trauma center last night. Most of them were young (teenage) drivers who were involved in accidents. Remember them in your prayers. -- Love Lynne & Carl
#2 arrived and within about 5 minutes we had a house full of young adults. He thinks he has learned enough that he doesn't need to go back to Charleston. That should prove for some good discussions this weekend. But for now he can enjoy things.
My prayers go out to a family friend (Eddie) who was injured following a motorcycle accident a few days ago. He lost control when he tried to avoid a drunk who stepped into the street. Despite a crushed leg and hip, he will survive the bruises thanks to his helmet.
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I see there is another attempt to get "In God We Trust" removed from our money. I wonder since it is so offensive to have that phrase, we do they continue to us money? I think their greed takes precedence to their moral values. Last time I looked, God was central to the formation of our great country. Read the Mayflower Charter, before they left the boat for land, they made sure everyone agreed that God was the foundation of whatever they built on land.
Thanks to the cool heads who prevailed in helping Philadelphia keep T.O. where he belongs -- off the field. I appreciate his talent but his childish requires him to grow up and be the man and example he could be.
Wednesday, November 23, 2005
Pre-Holiday Post
Dear Friends: -- Today was Paul's birthday and what a great day it was!!! I'm so thankful that we can celebrate another birthday with him! We took him cards and balloons but truthfully it was US that received the best gift!! God continues to restore Paul's body. He squeezed Tabby's hand today :-) . He also made a random "pulling" action with his left arm. This is important because as I said the other night it indicates activity in the upper portion of the brain. I believe that he is right at the surface and waiting for just the right moment to awaken! This morning the staff doctors were wanting to move Paul to the Intermediate Care Unit but his neurosurgeon stopped that. I was actually relieved because as good as he is doing I don't believe that he is ready to have any less monitoring. It is encouraging that they believe he is doing that well. As always, I ask that you keep praying, but I'd also like you to remember the families that are in the ICU with us. Please remember especially Rolando's family as he passed away today and Mark's family as he passed last night. -- Love, Lynne
Today's Update:
Dear Friends: -- Today was a pretty quiet day. Paul continues in his coma but he is still moving his arms & legs. His nurse told Carl that they are waiting for him to show signs of using his arm to reach across his chest area. I guess that takes more controlled effort. Carl told her he was moving his legs and feet so she took a pen and did a reflex test on his foot and he pulled it away from her. She was very pleased to see that. The doctor had him scheduled for the surgery on his foot today but the schedule was overbooked and they took him off the schedule. They may try again tomorrow. I wasn’t sorry since I think it can’t hurt to wait another day and give him a chance to get a little stronger. We are now also fighting an infection in his spinal fluid but the nurse said that is very common and wasn’t too worried about it. They will treat his with more antibiotics. It looks like he is just taking longer than we had hoped to wake up but we are still very hopeful that it will be soon. Thanks for your love and concern. -- Love, Lynne & Carl
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The Holidays approach and much to do. Starting with adding another hole to the belt (closer to the end). Checked the snack closet and made sure it was well stocked. Made sure there were a few good DVDs in case the football games turned into routs. Checked the slippers to make sure they were in good condition and capable of keeping my feet warm since some idiot weather man predicted snow flurries tonight. Fluffed the pillows in case a need to check the eyelids for holes was needed. Last night did a few tests of the scratch and spit routine making sure I had a good working technique. Man was I tired after all these preparations .. good thing the recliner was handy.
#2 son flies in tonight, so the fun and full house begins. Truthfully we are excited to see him and can't wait to hear more of his acronym filled stories.
Monday, November 21, 2005
Update 6
Dear Friends: -- Today was another very good day. Paul continues to have progress. His arms and legs are moving more and now we are getting more facial movement (mouth & eyelids). His is also moving his TOES!! What an exciting event :-) . His doctor talked to Tabby today and said he wants to do surgery on Paul's left ankle & foot. Apparently they were crushed resulting in multiple broken bones. He plans to do reconstructive surgery & put a metal plate in his foot. I guess they must feel he is stable enough to withstand the surgery (another very encouraging sign!!). Monday is Paul's 25th birthday. We will probably put some cards up in his room & maybe even a balloon!! We can certainly CELEBRATE his birthday this year!!! Thanks for your love & prayers. -- Love & Hugs, Lynne & Carl
Interesting question was asked of me today. Who causes the most stress in your life? That should be a good one to mull over. Still not sure I will print that person's name. The Holiday season fast approaches and in a few instances is already here. All the parties are being scheduled and the Christmas lists are coming in. We are trying to decide if we want to goto the pre-release showing of "Narnia" since my work has a handful of tickets. It would be fun seeing it a day before everyone else. The tought decision will be between the Christmas party given by my wife's work and the Christmas Paegant at our church.
Son #1 - No comment.
Son #2 - We are getting multiple calls everyday as he is so pumped about coming home for Thanksgiving. Gee, I remeber a time when he couldn't wait to get out of here. My how times change. Just hope he keeps his cool and doesn't get forgetful and leave all his belongings throughout the airport in his excitement to get here.
Daughter #1 - they got their car back after it was stolen. They lost a few personal items in the car and it had some damage. But at least it is back and driveable.
Daughter #2 - No word from her for a while now. Last we knew she was in Atlanta and our prayers are for her safety and perhaps somehow the light will turn on and she will contact us. I know the wife would love for that to happen.
Sunday, November 20, 2005
Update 5
Today was relaxing as we slipped back into our Sunday routine. It was even better since the Redskins lost 16-13. Lew kept us in stitches as he would try and talk to us and parrot anything we said. We also started studying the excursion list for our cruise and there are good choices. Hopefully by Friday we will decide on them.
Saturday, November 19, 2005
Update 4
"Hi All: -- Today was a pretty good day. Paul is doing a lot of coughing which is hard to watch and seems to cause some bleeding in the esophagus. This afternoon the doctor did a tracheotomy so they can start to wean him off of the ventilator. Tonight he was a little more comfortable but still coughing some. His temperature is up a bit and his BP is still up a bit. Tomorrow the doctor is going to insert a feeding tube into his abdomen so he can start to get some nutrition. He appears to be stretching his arms a bit but we are uncertain if that is from the coughing or if he is doing that voluntarily. Maybe we will know more tomorrow. Thanks for continuing to pray. We see God’s hand at work every day. -- Love Lynne"
Life continues for me and those around me. But one constant is our favorite mexican resturant. The food was good as ever today or maybe I was extra hungry.
#1 has his marching orders following his latest outburst which the living room wall lost.
#2 is anxious as ever for next Wednesday to get here so he can come home for the Holiday. He has voiced his desire to eat at El Agave next Saturday needless to say it wasn't very hard for us to agree.
Lou is a regular chatter box. Don't say anything if you don't want to hear it echo'd back.
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Thanks Joe Gibbs for being a man and apoligizing for chewing on the referee's following Washington's loss.
I love how the Democrats have taken their election politics to a new level by calling for a withdrawal from Iraq in six months. Sadly they don't say how this is to be done. But then again when do they ever have a plan that they will commit too?
Wednesday, November 16, 2005
Update 3
No change from #1 except now he has no car. It seems the bank doesn't like not being paid.
Less than a week till #2 shows up for the holidays. It will be interesting to see how he has changed since he has lived away from us for a couple of months. Yes, we got his list of desired snacks for him to munch on and the Christmas wish list was offerred.
Thanks to my Role-playing partner for her support and just being there. I promise to get the muse cranked soon and generate a few chapters.
On the work scene things couldn't be better. Working in an environment where you are appreciated goes a long way. It was frustrating to bring up a problem just to be told "suck it up and let it roll off your back." To me the sad part of this whole thing is not being able to finish the projects I had lined up. The first couple of years were spent getting a stable network. Then the modifications that would take them to another level followed. Well, I guess I will just start over and do it in the new job. Once I get my new boss to pay for lunch each day then I will be truly happy. :)
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Good luck to the South Riding Virginia Episcopal Church for holding their faith in protest of the election of gay Bishop and joining the Anglican Church.
Shame on the Clarendon Presbyterian Church for not performing marriages between a man and a woman in protest of the Virginia laws against same sex marriages.
I love seeing the Redskins whining about losing and how the game was stolen from them.
Saturday, November 12, 2005
Reflections on a cold Night
Today I sat with a small tear in my eye as I watched a couple of young men play video poker and goof off. They have made no effort to get a job and create a meaningful life. Then I thought of Paul, a young man deprived of his chance to work, he paid his own way through motorcycle mechanic school and couldn't fathom not working everyday to support his family. His last actual conversation with a friend was about his new child affectionately called "peanut" after viewing his first sonogram. As I watched these other two I wanted to scream "it wasn't fair" but then reason caught up and I regained my balance and said a silent prayer for the two.
So much has changed this week. I didn't even holler at people this week when they cut me off as they tried to race to work or where ever. I actually felt sorry for them for the same thoughtlessness they showed is the same thing that has hurt my closest friend and his family. I can see that life here is so hectic as everyone bustles to find the key to getting ahead and getting one step up on their competitor. Kind of funny how several weeks ago the four of us were discussing how our lives seemed predictable and scheduled. We had certain things we did on certain days and if you saw one couple you knew the other was nearby. But now? Maybe we wished too hard or someone mistook what we said and changed it.
Roleplay right now is a faint glimmer in my mind. Not because of my partner or my few friends that remain but I feel guilty sitting there. I do apologize for my abscence but also ask for understanding. Channels have been empty because I chose not to be there and I have learned that no one can be the focus of the channel if it hopes to succeed. For everyone involved must carry an equal load and not expect one person too. But I am meandering from the real reason I wasn't there. Real life is my sand box.
When Lou (the two year old) is here all I want to do is play. I want to be there because life is so unpredictable and short. I don't want to miss a moment as I read some kids book on potty training and Lou pushes the sound effects buttons or put that 6 piece fire truck puzzle together for the millionth time just to hear the siren wail. Tonight I just laid there while he jumped on me, stacked plastic Easter eggs on me and then shot them off with the water gun. Was it fun? No, but we were together and he laughed and squealed, "pa paw more."
For Missy and Barry, to just sit there and talk as adults and hopefully part some tiny bit of my knowledge or hear some of their sage guidance.
I wonder where Jessi is and if she is ok. It has been a while since we heard anything and a hug would sure be nice. I could care less of the gothic dress, the piercings, or a myriad of other faults as I see them, I just want her to know I love her and hear her say " I love you Dad."
Perhaps Paul's legacy to me will be the wake up call that I am flittering my life away. Pointing out to me the frailty and shortness of life. Yes, at 53 those thoughts even cross my mind too. Showing me by his abscence that I too have been absent caused by the long hours I work. Some say "your out of balance", others say "your priorities are out of whack" and yet others say "live some." Perhaps they are right. What happens next I don't know but I know I am forever changed and just what changed will become evident in time. For Paul, all I can do is pray and be there for his parents and my wife. So it is time to cram the tears and emotions back into that box and stand up straight and strong for the others who will need a strong shoulder to lean on.
#2 called at 10:30 pm to tell us a bear was outside his dorm room window. I hope he didn't expect us to race 5.5 hours over there to scare it away. :)
My nephew should be home now from their honeymoon. I wonder how much of Disney World did they see. :)
Friday, November 11, 2005
Update 2
Yesterday wasn't a good day as Paul suffered a setback. Besides the staff infection, the back of his brain is swelling and there is nothing they can do but watch and wait. The fog of this ordeal has yet to clear. This week if you asked me the day of the week I would have been unsure of what to say. The doctors who are said to be some of the best leave a lot to be said about their bedside manner. Most of their discussions are devoid of any glimmer of hope. It seems like sometimes they are reciting some medical book passage. Maybe it is a way to shield their emotions.
The better part of me -- my mate -- is really struggling as the pain and emotion of this ordeal wears hard on her. Her constant thought is, "if it hurts me this bad and disrupts my life so much, I can't imagine what Paul's mother is going through." I guess I am lucky I can just bury the thoughts and emotions only to bring them out when I so choose. Unless I run out of hugs and prayers she will make it through this and right now my hug tank is full.
Hmmm, "I thought I was getting B12 and it seems it wasn't." Wow, as I see it if I was expecting one thing and had it substitued with something else that would constitute Medical Malpractice. Another variation I have heard is -- it was a B12 shot and it must have been tainted. Again! Malpractice would be my first thought. Today I heard another statement that his friend gave it to him and he was expecting B12. Then arrest that friend for trafficking in illegal drugs and get a better group of friends. Come on Palmeiro, how many more variations of a lie must we endure? You used steroids, lied to Congress about it and that is the end of the story and time to face the music. I vote that any record you achieved be nullified and at best asterisked as drug induced or performance enhanced. Better yet call it like it is ... cheating, nice record.
Thanks Major League Baseball for the cheap shot attempt to hurt the Nationals Baseball team. Maybe the District of Columbia government screwed things up but don't join them by piling on more crap. Get after the spoiled owners of the other teams and make them vote now. Call a special meeting and give the Nationals a chance to be competitive.
Wednesday, November 09, 2005
A Quick Update
The new job is going great but as usual it is keeping me busy.
#1 has no change except we argue more and he has now lost his car. At some point he will get his sign and wake up. I sure wish it would be sooner rather than later.
#2 is still progressing. The anxiousness of coming home for the Holidays is seting in for both him and us, particlarly mom.
Less than 7 weeks till we cruise. I can't wait for this one especially now it is all paid for. Oh, how I love to lock the cell phone in the safe and not see or hear it for 12 days. Maybe I should come home this year with a good set of dreads.
Bowling is going well. The youth team is learning but still a good season away from being competitive. The team on the Sunday Night league is doing good, we are right in the middle and poised for a good end of the season run. The National Tournament is in Corpus Christi this year and that should be a good time. It is a little hard to believe this year will be my 16th consecutive year of bowling in it. The tournament in Toledo, Ohio in 1990 seems so long ago.
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I have been watching that new series "Commander in Chief" and so far it has been good. The attitude of some of the Congressman is portrayed very well. They have in a lot of ways forgotten who they work for ... the people.
Boston Legal is a disappointment. I would have hoped they would have portrayed the lawyers better. Their image suffers enough without the show portraying them as alchoholic, sexist, uppity and better than anyone else and the firm as a "good ole boys club". If I were to try something like that at work, I would be in jail and facing a lot of court time. But then again, is it a true depiction?
I see T.O. is his normal self and forgetting that being a part of a team is what got him there. I hope they let he sit at home for quite awhile and maybe some sliver of common sense will sink in. But, we know better than to dream like that.
Did I hear someone say it is time to get serious about RP and writing? Must of been the wind.
Monday, November 07, 2005
A Surreal Fog
At 2 pm on Saturday (1 hour before the scheduled wedding) we arrived at home and headed straight to the hospital. If I thought the car ride was interesting coming home, I was shocked at the emotional rollercoaster we rode till 8 pm Sunday night.
Paul had suffered massive head trauma (yes, he wore a helmet) after being t-boned by an accelerating car trying to race between the line of cars sitting in a traffic jam. Sadly, Paul was on his bike in that opening. Not sure how much she accelerated too but it was enough to throw him across the road and destroy his Harley. She claimed she never saw him but the other 5 eye-witnesses saw him (all his lights were turned on). One of the witnesses was a police officer. So far she has been charged with failure to yield and time will tell if she is charged with more.
Over that time, 2 pm Saturday to 8 pm Sunday, we went through the gamut of emotions as the doctors worked on him. We discussed removing the respirator and letting Paul’s body decide his fate. Another time, we faced given he most likely would be a vegetable so allowing him to die might be the best. Then we faced the thought his brain would kill him because of the pressure was getting too high. This was the last issue that forced a decision in which they removed the top of his skull to allow the brain to expand all it wanted. So now we know he will live and celebrate his 25th birthday on November 21 but what we don’t know is what that life will be like. But I do have faith that he will have a meaningful life and will get to raise his child who will be born in about 27 weeks.
As for me, I am exhausted both physically and emotionally. I have gotten a full night’s sleep last night but the emotional drain will take a while longer. Driving for 16 hours with Paul’s parents sometimes seemed like a nightmare. Not that they were bad company but the fog of what seemed so unreal combined with wanting the time to pass faster, the fact we were tired of driving and the not knowing of how Paul was doing. The full extent of his criticalness wasn’t known until after his parents got there.
I guess this whole episode has given me a different slant on many issues. My prayer life has gotten a hard workout these past few days. But that is another blog for another time.
Friday, October 28, 2005
Chuckles on the Eve of a Harvest Feast
Well, I thought I would jot a few words down while I am waiting for a computer to do all of its updates. This software has more patches than a rusted out car.
We are still busy as we start to head into the holiday season. The cruise is now less than 2 months away. I have been off this week as I transition to a new job that starts on Monday. I have gotten a few things done in between phone calls from both the old workplace and the new one. I won’t say much about the old place because it gets my blood boiling and life isn’t worth all that crap.
On the sports scene: Congrats to the Chicago White Sox – the best team won. I can’t believe the Braves let their pitching coach go. I just hope they have another one of them miracle workers standing in the shadows to fill those shoes. I chuckle at the Redskins with their talk of Super Bowl. They beat up the losing teams and lose to the winning teams. Someone needs to explain to them that in the playoffs there is only winning teams. Oh, by the way, on December 24, I have tickets to watch the NY Giants beat up on the Redskins. What a Christmas present!
Roleplay: It is just not the same right now. The writing to support it isn’t there. When in the channel, the people to bring it alive aren’t there. Where it leads, who knows. I wish I knew the magical word to regenerate it but sadly I don’t. I have my memories and dreams of times past but sooner or later even those grow dim. What is next? That is what is grinding up a few brain cells. Without my RP partner I couldn’t imagine where I would be. I always believed given the right 4 people and it would go on forever but given the events of the recent past I would have serious doubts about that statement. But hope is always there and someday the sun will rise.
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Something I do miss is the seventh inning stretch during a ball game where they sing “Take me out to the Ballgame.” Yes, being patriotic is a good thing but it has been 4 years and it is about time to return to the classic song and baseball history.
We need to do something about these disasters and how people approach them. I was amazed how many people did not prepare for this last storm in South Florida. It is like they expect the Government to care for them even when they are so near-sighted as to not prepare at all. If they had followed the basic guidelines for disaster preparedness they would have had food and water for three days. Wanting ice for the beer cooler and blaming the government for not supplying it is a bit ridiculous. If they had evacuated even a few hundred miles, they would be living the lifestyle they are accustomed to. Smacks a lot like a bunch of spoiled kids wanting everything but not willing to do anything themselves.
Gee, what has happened to the gas prices? For me they have gone from $3.05 to $2.29 lately. The only thing I saw that would have affected them would be the Congressional Investigation. Surely, with supply and demand the same and given the Gas companies were honest in their dealings with the average American and an investigation would fine nothing untoward! So I would what really sparked this sudden and dramatic downturn? Compassion?
Monday, October 24, 2005
Life's Update
Well, today is the first day of my next adventure. No more 15 hour days or dealing with people that would rather stab you in the back than tell you something doesn't work and let me fix it. As I reflect over the last 6 years, I wonder where everything got side tracked. Am I completely innocent? Most likely not. But I am least up front and will get into your face and not your back. It will be a most interesting period of time watching how they handle things over there. The lead engineer doesn't have a clue, either in life or at work. A newsroom full of linux servers and he is so smart he doesn't know the password, or where each one is, or any idea what to do if he does find them. The other person is new and still learning computers. Ready to fly solo yet? No, a lot of over the shoulder is needed and sadly Salem is horrible at that. They like to throw people into the mix and then when they make a major mistake, fire them. I guess one thing that irks me is that my boss or the VP for the division never called to talk and try and figure out what has happened. I guess when you are a remote micro manager who cares. But I really think it was an opportunity to dump my salary and try to get a entry level person in there or better yet, a better reason to eliminate my spot and have a reason to consolidate the operations back in Dallas. To my friends in the newsroom, I hope and wish for the best and that your time there will be better. To the others, well, play your games, sleep, back stab and generally go to hell.
#1 has no change. Though the young lion felt his oats last night at the bowling alley and challenged the old lion. Happily, the old lion won 217-212, but the lioness was only at 190 and with her hadicap she put us both back into place. As a team we gave a lesson to the other team with a 175+ pin win.
#2 is cold. Being on a mountaintop in the fall gets cold and will get colder as the snow comes. Well, we will go and buy him a new coat rather than tracking down the old one he left here, where only God knows. He took his GED and now we await the results. Drivers school is next on the horizon and his trade schooling is moving along. Except for the occaision bouts of homesickness, he is doing ok. We are both proud of him for getting this far but anxiously await him to get all the way through.
Saturday was spent riding along the Virginia / North Carolina border looking at properties and houses that were for sale. We saw some beautiful ones that we are checking further into, especially on piece of land on US Highway 158 south on Lake Gaston North Carolina. Old southern farm house with columns, a tack house with a mother-in-law apartment, stables, a large pond with running stream right through the whole farm, the prettiest deep green grass with with white fences all over. The driveway was down a road flanked on both sides by a white fence and pastures. There is about 40 acres there with some of the back section still heavily wooded. Oh well, time will tell as we investigate further.
The our schedule gets fuller by the day. Oct 29-30, we are home but at the church alot with trunk-or-treat and our annual charge conference. Nov 5-6 is my nephews wedding which means a whirlwind trip to Florida. Nov 12-13 is a quiet weekend at a cabin located in Berkley Springs WV. and Nov 19-20 the #2 son comes home for the Holidays. At that point we are only 5 weks away from the cruise with Thanksgiving and Christmas in between. Some one say, "you can do what when?"
Wednesday, October 19, 2005
A Little Update - 2
A Job change is in the air as 10/21/05 is my last day here. As I inferred in an earlier post, I have had enough. I would love to have said it was a great ending to a great job but I would be lying. What is next? Who knows.
#1 is just as obstinate as ever. It would be great if he grew up and figured out what life is all about.
#2 is doing great except for occaisional doses of homesickness. He will be home for Thanksgiving holidays.
Here comes Wilma. I wonder how FEMA will react.
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My faith is restored a little bit. The Chief Judge said that the Judge that lifted the restraining order that allowed the ex to set his wife on fire did not make a clerical error but made a judgment error and there will be an investigation. Thanks Chief Judge.
Monday, October 17, 2005
Quick Thought
Roleplay has been almost non-existant for many reasons. As for the writings, well, the pen has no ink is the easiest way to say it. I find that I need inspiration or some stimulus to write and for whatever reasons it has been absent. There are times I wish the clock could be spun backward and then find another path for us to follow. But I also know many bridges have been burned and sadly a course set that perhaps lacks the same bonds.
The work scene continues to become a place that is less and less enjoyable to work in. Where it goes from here I don't know but when there is no desire there is no will to continue. I hope we are able to come to some agreement with the new job so I can make the change and start in a place where I feel good about.
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This last week I have laughed at the comments and thoughts of the Nation of Islam leader, Farrakhan. How can he believe that the Governement had placed explosives in the World Trade Center to be detonated when the planes flew into them. And then he popped off about the way the Governement planted explosives under the levees in New Orleans. It is some of that misguided nonsense that will continually fuel the flames of segregation. Perhaps if he read his good book more such an attempt to divide would turn to efforts to rebuild and heal the wounds. But that also requires that his good book is truly the words of peace he so laboriously expounds.
I am a bit confused with a local story that concerns the death of a lady following the Judge's refusal to extend her protection order against her husband. The day after the Judge cancelled the order she was set on fire by her husband. What confuses me is the video of the court proceedings shows the judge chastising her and saying the order was unneccesary and if she felt so inclined to file for divorce but he wasn't going to help her any more. Today, the court system said "the judge made a clerical error and checked the wrong box that lifted the protection order." What is going on? The judge verbally said what he was going to do and then did it. He didn't make an error -- the Court has in covering up his ill advised decision that cost a lady her life. Also in the video I was amazed how he tried to sound like some TV Judge and lecture her. The TV judges are paid to act out and the clients have agreed to accept what they get. But the District judge had no business acting up for the camera. Listen to the facts, decide the apprpriate action based on those facts and apply the law accordingly and keep your opinions to yourself. Because of his showboating an innocent lady is dead.
What happened in Toledo? A Neo-Nazi protest turned into a wild attack on the Police. I am amazed that even after Neo-Nazi's left out of concern for their safety, the so called citizens of Toledo trashed their homes and attacked the Police. So who was the real villian. Shame on you citizens of Toledo. I like how you protected your rights and homes by destroying them. A real bright move on par with a bunch of idiots.
Thursday, October 13, 2005
Thoughts in a Fog
Our cruise in December is now all paid for. Sure can't wait for the last few weeks to pass.
Roleplay is quiet while my partner is off learning to cook. Gee, I wonder where hubby is then? Massage Parlor? Hot Tub with the Dance Company troop?
Sometimes you really wonder why you spend time to help someone or do that little bit extra for the Company. You sink so much time into the job to make it self sustaining and reliable only to be told that the boss said "go ahead take him, just let me know when" when he was queried about a potential opening elsewhere in the Company. Its times like that that put a hole into the self esteem and feeling that "you are worth it." It does make the transition easier knowing they feel I am expendable. It won't take long for things to unravel with almost thirty networked workstations and servers in a linux and windows environment. I look at the two who will take over and shake my head. One person has no IT experience and the other can't even install Windows on a computer and on a linux box, well, I will let your imagination roam. Why, you ask? Well, it seems the micro-manager wants to dissolve this operation back into his operation at a different location. With us falling to 4 people short including the manager it becomes clearer now. Why they couldn't be forthright and say at a certian point in time we want to move the operation instead of letting it spin out of control as people leave or jockey to save their position. Is it the plan to run everyone off except those who are selected to hang on in the other location? Could be.
Has it became the rage to expect the Government to fix or replace everything when something catastrophic happens to you? I keep hearing people being interviewed that expect the Government to replace thier homes or provide them with a certain standard of living. FEMA should take care of the immediate emergency issues and then the Insurance and the individual should take over. It comes across to me that many people are sitting back and waiting on the Government to wait on them and provide everything.
I was confused some last night as I watched the replay of the New Orleans Police incident as the Police Officers lawyer stated that the Police did not hit the man in the face. Now what confuses me is the video that is playing with the horse in the foreground. Yes, they didn't hit him in the face, but from what I could see, they had their hand on the back of his head/neck and was banging it against the wall. Seems like the same effect -- to damage the man's face. Oh, they the police are exhausted, homeless, overstressed and overworked so that explains why they flew off the handle like that. Well, if things are that bad, then the State or Federal Government should deputize enough officers to relieve every one of the New Orleans Police Officers. The replacement police should remain on the job until the regular officers have control of their personal lives and until the Legal system has cleaned out the Officers that are less than reputable. Then there will be no excuses for that kind of behavior.
Monday, October 10, 2005
Quick Note
Kids! You love them but sometimes you just want to wring their necks. Specifically #1's. We haven't heard anything from #2 son so we can assume he is doing well. If he was struggling I know the phone would be ringing off the hook. It is about a month till we will have to run over and bring him home for Thanksgiving.
Bowling was ok this weekend. The best part was my star student has returned while her parents wait for their house to sell. So now we can fine tune the team and make a run for first place. It should be an interesting time as besides the sport I must learn to deal with their emotions. Believe me, three young ladies who are 7, 11, 16 years old swing emotionally all over the spectrum.
What is with the New Orleans Police Department? I am confused as to why someone in Authority hasn't stepped in and fixed this emabarrassment to all Police Officers. Atlanta's Chief Pennington has said that the New orleans Police Department is fundamentally corrupt .. so someone please step in and fix it.
Well, Atlanta let another one slip away. The Yankees hung on while the Redskins embarrassed themselves again. The Redskins are the weakest looking 3-1 team around.
